IQ-212: Heal Yourself and Your Relationships With Love, Acceptance…and a Sense of Humor!

Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life

My name is Brandy Gillmore and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it’s become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life.

Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I’ll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life. Let’s begin.

Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore and after
recovering from my own life -changing injury, it’s become my mission to share with
others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life.
Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take
this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free
themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I’ll provide you with a
combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind,
your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself and your life.
Let’s begin.
So I want to talk about healing relationships, but also feeling happy in
relationships without needing to change the other person and going to a deeper place
on this topic. And the reason being is because all of the time I’ll see people who
have been on this self -help personal development journey or spiritual journey for a
long period of time working on healing themselves and also their relationships, but
having relationship issues show up in different ways that can feel a little tricky
or even I’ve seen people where they get on the spiritual journey or self -help and
they’re working on themselves and they actually find their relationships are less and
less successful and they’re finding that just want to be more and more by themselves
and you know even if you think about our cast volunteer that I just worked with,
beautiful Melissa last week on last week’s episode. When I talked about her and she
was in this place in life in her own situation where she just felt like she wanted
to just go meditate and be by herself and be on a mountain and sometimes I’ll see
that with people where they’re waking up to more and more spirituality and in their
relationships they’re feeling a greater disconnect. But what we ultimately want to do
is of course use personal development itself, help to actually have relationships that
are flourishing, that are happy, that are healthy, that are fun. And even by the
way, I actually just this last weekend, I just went to my brother’s wedding and it
was so sweet and it was so much fun. And I got to connect with all of my nephews
and my family and have a big family. And it was just so sweet and harmonious and
what I love, you know, in the past there might have been some bickering or what
not with different siblings different blah blah blah blah blah right at some point,
like just the connection with everybody is just so smooth and loving and harmonious
and sweet and laughter and love it was just beautiful.
And this is what I also love. My parents have been divorced since the 80s. So they
have been divorced for a very long time. And they literally traveled together and I
traveled with them both. And they’re just so kind and sweet and fun and funny
towards each other and playful and their spouses. So they’re both remarried or
repartnered in long -term chips and they all just get along so great and it’s where
I want to go with this is that they are two very different people very different
and they got married at a very very young age and and they just grew in different
ways now my point is is that all of the time I’ll see people who are on the
personal development self -help type of journey that when they see people that are
different or doing things in a different way, they might end up wanting to judge
them or fix them or whatnot, and it can end up creating more and more problems
instead of just accepting people the way they are. And that’s a simple but powerful
insight that I wanted to share with you today. Now, sometimes what can happen is
Sometimes you might feel that the way somebody else is being is then frustrating to
the way that you want to be and so all of the time people may run into the same
type of friction or upset and what I would also recommend doing is being able to
address everything with humor as much as possible in fun or playful ways without
needing everybody to be perfect because another thing that I see all of the time is
people will get into this place where they always have to process. They go, “Okay,
this happened. Let’s process.” And what they sometimes mean by that is, “Okay, well,
let me fix you and let me fix you. Let me make you be different.” And sometimes
we just need some lightness in the relationship where it’s going to be fun. And I’m
going to give you an example of lightness or silliness. For me personally,
There was this beautiful, beautiful being that I dated, we were together, my ex,
15 years ago we started dating and I absolutely love her, she’s wonderful, she’s
fantastic, she’s an incredible human being, but she had this little thing about food.
Now it was interesting because she could run a production, she could run a team,
she could do all kinds of things. She’s just very empowered individual, but if you
mentioned food, she had a funny thing with food that would stress her out. So,
and which me, I eat all of the time. And so, and this became a joke between us,
but with her, with foods, like she, like, loved tiny, tiny,
tiny little dishes, and tiny little dishes, and food, and eating more than once a
day stressed her out, like that so it was a thing for her and of course me I
needed to eat all the time and I love to eat and I and so what would happen is
I would mention food and it would stress her out so I didn’t what am I supposed
to do then not mention food well that didn’t work what am I supposed to do try to
correct her so then I would in a joking way I would tell her. I would say,
okay, I’m about to mention the F word. And for us, that meant food.
Now, what do you think she would do? She would laugh. I would laugh. And I would
say, I’m going to get some food. Do you want any? So my point is,
is I didn’t need to fix her. I didn’t need her to change.
I didn’t need To then not be me or feel shut down.
I didn’t need to make her wrong or correct her or I just Let her be exactly the
way she was. I didn’t need to change her and That’s the insight that I want to
share with you. So notice I mean, I could have taken it so many like what am I
not supposed to eat I could have been stressed by it upset by it. No, Just hey,
I’m gonna ask you a question. It’s regarding the F word and we laugh so now that
I got her laughing I’m like all right. I’m gonna mention the F word. I need to
get food. Do you want some or not very simple, right? And so my point and even
you know, I mentioned traveling with my parents this last week My point is is just
so often I mean and they’re so different from each other and yet they can laugh
and enjoy and so often sometimes when people get on the spiritual self -help type of
journey they need to correct others or make others wrong or be right over somebody
else and if we all have to be perfect to be in relationship with you know like oh
so -and -so has to be perfect first and everybody has to be perfect and have no
little quirks or no little this or no things they’re working on or not working on
or whatever else, that would be silly. Or if we always need to point them out or
they need to be a problem, they don’t need to always be a problem. Everybody’s got
their things that they’re working on or not working on when they choose to work on
them or not. But being able to accept each other the way we are and not only
that, but to have some humor and move through things can be so powerful and sweet.
And so, and to this day, my ex, she’s still a very close friend, I absolutely love
her. And I’ll say, okay, I’m going to mention the F word. Do I know what her
issue was with that? No, why? I haven’t checked into it. I don’t need to. I don’t
need to correct her and, but her portions have gotten bigger. But We laugh about
it. It’s fun. It’s funny. It’s playful. What needs to be fixed? Nothing. It’s
nothing. And so that’s exactly my point,
is that bringing in humor, having fun, being playful, and sometimes just not taking
things too seriously or even if there is something to find quirky little silly
playful ways to just navigate it to where you can each be yourselves and you don’t
have to fix anybody or make them wrong or be wrong or whatnot but move through
things in a fun playful way and by the way that is one of the things that all of
my time I hear people say like people who are close to me they say you know what
what One of the things that I love about Brandi is she never tries to make me,
she just lets me be me. She doesn’t have to correct me, like I don’t. I don’t
correct people, I don’t make them wrong. Like I just find humor, find fun, find
playfulness and trust when somebody’s ready to work on something they will, and that
will be on their time as they want to. And so that’s the insight that I wanted to
share with you today is just that, is having fun, moving through things with more
ease, more playfulness, more joy, and loving life, and really just embracing that.
And when we show up in a relationship and we show up to just enjoy,
to have fun on purpose, to enjoy on purpose, and the more that we do that, the
more we experience it. And so that, of course, is my hope for you, And that is
today’s simple but powerful insight. And I know on some levels this seems really
simple. And the truth of it is, the more you put it into practice and just embody
it and live it, the more happiness and joy and love that it creates all around.
And so just food for thought and that’s today’s quick IQ episode.
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because the more that every single person feels happy and healthy and loved and
loving, the better this world is for all of us. So hit the share button, and I
look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.
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create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are
all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to
reinforce their programming to maintain their results. But the point is for you to
see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you
really understand how to use your mind. You’re incredible. And I do want to be
clear though that most people will not get results this fast on their own.
I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You want to
remember that there’s so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than
people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come
visit me on my website at brandygillmore.com/podcast. And if you’re currently
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sign up there as well. Lastly, please remember, if you do have any health issues,
you won’t want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you’ll want to continue seeing them
and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you’re capable of with your
mind. Thank you.