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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life.
My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life.
Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.
Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.
I'll even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.
Let's begin.
Meet Mary: A Beautiful and Authentic Volunteer
Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it, and I just love today's episode. On today's podcast episode, I work with a beautiful volunteer. Her name is Mary, and I'm gonna warn you, you are absolutely going to love her.
She just is so authentic and sweet, and caring and just real. And of course she's got some things going on, some stresses, some angers and frustrations and, and things going on at a deeper level. But her level of self-awareness and authenticity is just really beautiful and impressive, and her heart is just you're, you're absolutely going to love her.
And also, some of the things that she's been struggling with, she's been struggling with health issues for over 34 years now, but also other things such as the topic of approval that comes up in a big way. And there's just some layers that are so common that people experience. And so that's what one of the many things that I love about today's episode is that is just the awareness, the insights, and of course our beautiful volunteer.
Sneaky Patterns and the Power of Awareness
And so that's where we're going. Now as we dive in, I just wanna say that. You know, when we're talking about, the topic of approval, just noticing how it can be tricky, and by the way, going through my own injury, what I realized also with my patterns is that they could show up in different ways and I didn't even realize it.
And that's one of the things you're gonna notice as we go through this episode, is that she does have the awareness and then also some of the patterns show up. That are a little bit sneaky. They show up in, in different ways or present themselves in different ways. And so sometimes it can make it a little challenging to create that genuine shift.
And so again, I just, that's another insight that I just really, really love from this episode. And so on that note, we have a beautiful volunteer and we're gonna step in with her. Her name is Mary, and you're absolutely going to love her.
Here we go.
Diving Into Mary's Story: Chronic Pain and Emotional Triggers
Hi. It's wonderful to connect with you.
Mary: You too. So excited to speak to you and meet you and nervous and everything.
It's wonderful. It's wonderful to connect with you. Um, I'm glad you're excited, and, uh, and what can I do to help you today?
Mary: Okay. I've had chronic pain for 34 years, every day for three, four years, um, in my head, neck. Mouth and tongue mainly. Um, headaches were always an issue for me, even as a child, but they became chronic, um, 34 years ago. Very, very, I think the day or two after I had a broken engagement. So I always thought it was, I. Emotional, there was some emotional connection. But any doctor I've ever gone to has always said, no, no, no, no, no, no. Couldn't be.
Mary: Um, sometimes the pain is a one outta 10. Some days. Some days it's a 10 outta 10. It follows a strange pattern. I used to work in a very stressful job in a bank, and I left there 12 years ago, toxic environment. So I left. I used to think that the headache was kind of bad on a Wednesday or a Thursday because I was kind of tired and the week, you know, the stress of the week, but it's still at its worst.
Mary: Most weeks on a Wednesday and a Thursday, I. I don't know why the pattern continues and it generally takes a couple of days to calm down. It also moves around today, for example. It's not too bad. It's in my shoulders, mostly going up to my head. But some, when I woke this morning, it was all over my head and sometimes at night, the pain is so bad in my mouth and my tongue, it just moves around.
Mary: Um, the other issue I have, and I know it's, it, it is connected to it. My way of hoping and numbing the pain is alcohol. I. I've also noted that it has been my way of numbing all sorts of emotional things that have happened in my life, like breakups and that sort of thing. Um, the next day, generally if I have, like, if I have, if good you had lost the wine the next day, my pain is worse.
Mary: So it's helping, but it's also causing, the next day is pain, if you know what I mean.
Mary: Um. I have issues then around, around the alcohol of beating myself up and, uh, guilt, um, worrying about my health, all this sort of stuff, worrying about, you know, what I'm doing to my health.
Mary: Um. And I know it's MINDBODY and I've taught that for a very long time, but I just feel so stuck.
Mary: I've listened to, um, uh, what's his name? Uh, SAR uh, the first thing I read was I think John Sarno's book. I've read, um, oh, uh, Howard Shud, I think is his name, and Alan Gordon's the way out. I listen to the Curable app. I've, I've tried so many things to try and help myself. But I just, there's a block somewhere and I can't seem to just get past it, if you know what I mean.
Mary: And I've tried everything else as well, physically as in. Interventions, like, and all the alternative stuff, pain management programs you named. Right. So that's it in a nutshell.
Beginning the Shift: Assessing Pain and Root Patterns
I get it. I get it. I, I understand. And, uh, let's do this. Let's go ahead and dive in. And, uh, you mentioned right now a lot of your pain is in your shoulder area and up the side of your neck.
Brandy: And if I ask you currently right now, what is your level? Zero to 10?
Mary: I would say two to three. Three, okay. Maybe so, um. Bingo. Bingo. That's, I would say I would, yeah. 2, 3, 3, 4. Somewhere in there. That's what I would've given it. Three, four, um, right in there. Yeah.
Brandy: Gimme one second. Um, bingo. Bingo, bingo. Okay. So, um, interesting. All right…
Exploring Family Dynamics and the Feeling of Being Judged
Brandy: So, can you give me your—can you give me your mom's first initial, please?
Mary: She, uh, her, her, her official name begins with an E.
Brandy: Bingo.
Mary: But her name that they called her was a B.
Brandy: Okay. Yeah. Um, and, uh, go back and say E—will you just say E for her?
Mary: E.
Brandy: Bingo. Okay. And, um, great. And, uh, and can you give me your father—I just wanna just confirm—but can you give me your father's first initial, please?
Mary: Okay.
Brandy: Okay. And go back and say your mother's again, please.
Mary: E.
Brandy: Bingo. Okay. Um, so there's a feeling of a feeling like, um, like you've done something bad and you're gonna get in trouble—like somebody's watching and you're gonna get in trouble. Are you familiar with that feeling?
Mary: I'm not sure if it was that I'd get in trouble. Yeah, it's—I certainly remember a feeling of not being good enough and not being able to please them enough, and that I would never be enough—probably mainly towards my mother than my father.
Brandy: Okay. Um, let me put it in a different way real quick. Disapproval. Bingo. If I ask you—towards the drinking—if I ask you how much you feel a sense of shame towards alcohol, what would you say?
Mary: Probably high, probably every single day. Beating myself up, so maybe eight to 10.
Brandy: Okay. And, uh, and so I'm gonna ask you to breathe.
Being Watched and Judged: The Pattern Intensifies
Brandy: And, um, it's also—there's also a feeling of feeling like, um, like you're being watched, like somebody's looking or watching. Like, uh—are you familiar with that feeling? Being judged, maybe?
Mary: Bingo. Mmm. Yeah. Yeah. Particularly by my sister. Particularly by my sister.
Brandy: Thank you. Okay. Now, if I ask you—by the way, you also mentioned at the bank there was that feeling—you felt like, if I ask you how much you were feeling, uh, criticized or watched or judged, uh, how much would you say that is? Zero to 10.
Mary: Very high. Yeah. Not by everybody. By some people.
Brandy: Bingo. Some people. Mm-hmm. Okay. And, um—bingo. And can you give me your sister's first initial also, please?
Mary: E.
Brandy: Bingo. And give me your mom's first initial as well, please.
Mary: E.
Brandy: Mm-hmm. And say your sister's E again, please.
Mary: E.
Brandy: Bingo. Okay. So it actually is stronger even with your sister than it is with your mom. So that's why E—I was look—I was like, mm-hmm, yes. But yeah. So, uh, bingo. So thank you. That's what I needed. Uh, it was actually that, uh, and in some ways your sister feels like almost like she's watching over you like a mom. Um, can you see that?
Mary: Yeah. Yeah. She's my younger sister and she behaves like she's the big sister and that she's the one with all the sense, and I'm dizzy and I have no sense. And I always do things wrong. She has to state the obvious and judges everything I do.
Brandy: Bingo. Okay. Mm-hmm. So, uh, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe.
Acknowledging Feelings of Inferiority
Brandy: Now, uh, bingo. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe and… And if I ask you to notice the part of you who feels like she's better than you, zero to 10, what's your level?
Mary: 10. That she feels she's better than me? Yeah.
Brandy: And if I asked you how much you feel like she's better than you, what would you say?
Mary: I know she's not really. I know—you know, I know she's not.
Brandy: I know you know that. And if I asked you how much you feel she's better than you, what would you say?
Mary: Yeah, I probably feel it quite strong. ‘Cause I do try to prove myself to her all the time—as I'm trying to convince her that maybe I am not as stupid or whatever she tries to make out.
Brandy: Um, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe. I'm ask you to breathe. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Breathe.
The Spiral of Approval, Judgment, and Self-Criticism
Brandy: All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love her. I love her authenticity. I love her heart, her self-awareness—just beautiful. And also, you know, so often people will find themselves doing that very thing where they're criticizing themselves, but then wanting approval from others.
And you can see the spiral where there's this feeling of just really, really, really wanting approval more than anything, but also feeling judged, feeling criticized, and simultaneously… she’s judging and criticizing herself as well. And so it creates this feeling, this energy, this attraction.
And that's part of what is going on—is exactly that—is in the—you know, she's a very, very strong being, a beautiful being, but very strong and, and wanting what she wants and, and wanting this approval. And so it's creating this feeling of, you know, hurt, of frustration, of not feeling loved, of—you know, just the spiral.
And so the thing that you wanna notice is this, is that sometimes the pattern can show up in so many different ways, or it can create those spirals that really can keep you stuck and affect your health and your life and show up in so many different ways. And so that's part of where we're going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Mary.
Here we go.
Tying the Pain to Emotional Triggers and Relationship Dynamics
Brandy: So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. So. What I would say is—so notice when the wedding, the—the marriage, the wedding didn't work out, when that thing ended, right? I would say the trigger was actually a huge feeling of judgment towards your sister and wondering what she would think, etcetera, etcetera. Uh, that feeling was a big part of the trigger. Are you familiar with that?
Mary: I can't remember feeling that. Um, so let me put it in another—I know she—go ahead. Yeah, go ahead.
Mary: She was a huge support to me. She was a huge—the only person that was a huge support to me. That's 12 years ago, 11 years ago. She was really the huge support, but I don't know what's happened since.
Brandy: Okay. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.
Bingo. There we go. And that's why. Okay. And I want you to notice how much closer you guys got during that time. Hmm. Yeah. I ask you to notice how much more you craved her approval at that time.
Mary: Did I?
Brandy: Well, let's—let's go this way. Hold on one second. Hmm. Let's go this way. Let's do this. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice how much you love your sister. So zero to 10, what's your level?
Mary: I love her a lot.
Brandy: Uh-huh. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.
And I want you to notice how much you're striving for her approval. Yeah. Zero to 10, what's your level?
Mary: 10. 10.
Brandy: So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.
And what if you already have her approval? Mmm.
Now by the way, she never says it or anything, you know? Yes. But I have a question. Have you ever said to her, “Hey, you have my approval”?
Mary: I try to say things to her like, oh, you look lovely tonight, and all this sort of thing, and say—I don’t know. Maybe I don’t, but maybe I—my defenses are—are up because I feel she doesn’t approve of me and all that sort of stuff, you know? Maybe that's why I don't do it. I—I don't know.
Brandy: So—bingo. Gimme one second.
Bingo. Okay. Now I also want you to notice the part of you who’s really angry with her. Can you see that?
Mary: Yeah. So. Mm-hmm. And yeah.
Connecting Anger, Venting, and Physical Pain
Brandy: And if I ask you, sometimes if you have a feeling of venting about her in a—
Mary: Mm-hmm. I know. So this is the thing. This is what I did. So notice—
Brandy: All the time, right?
Mary: Mm. All the time.
Brandy: Bingo. And that's the tongue. Okay, so the burning feeling of venting about her—blah, blah, blah, blah, blah—that’s the tongue and the mouth feeling. So notice you—sometimes, you mentioned sometimes you have a level, it’s burning, right? And you wake up—
Mary: Yeah.
Brandy: Et cetera. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.
Bingo. Okay. So I want you to notice your level of pain. What's your level of pain? Zero to 10?
Mary: Probably two. Little bit less than it was. A little bit.
Brandy: Mm-hmm. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Fantastic. Great job. Okay. And, uh, give me one second.
Bingo. So, I want you to notice the part of you who wants her approval and the other part of you that just wants her to go away and wants her out of your life because she’s driving you nuts. Can you see that?
Mary: Yeah.
Brandy: Okay. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. Mm-hmm.
The Metaphor of Direction and the Need for Confidence
Brandy: And now imagine for a moment if I said I wanna go to Canada and, uh, and I need to go east or west or east or west or east or west. Well, none of them are gonna get me there—Canada's north. So I, yeah, figure out a different way.
So notice the part of you that is like, I really, really want her approval. I’m so tired of her. I blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I don’t have it. And you're feeling hurt. And then you're—so, it's like you're vacillating between east, west, east, west, east, west—and you need a north. Does that make sense?
Mary: Okay. Yeah.
Brandy: So—yeah. So I want you to think about if you were to create a healthy relationship with your sister, what would that look like? If you were to rethink the relationship and create a healthy relationship, what would that look like?
Now, before you answer, I'm gonna interrupt my own question with another thing—just to add to it really fast. If I ask you, is your sister nice to other people?
Mary: Um, well, certainly not to my—my—my younger son. Definitely not. And he can't—he—he feels the same about her. She’s very nice to my fa—she—it’s like she has this little gang. Little people. A gang of people. Or my father would be one. My mother's dead. So my father will be—she wraps him in cotton wool. She wraps her little dogs in cotton wool. And her son—she wraps in cotton wool, but he’s moved to Canada now and he's not here.
But I feel outside that she's very little sort of empathy or softness towards anybody else. That’s the way I feel about her. I don’t know if that's right or wrong, but that's what I feel. My dad, her dogs—maybe her partner, I'm not quite sure. Her husband—I’m not sure if he's included in that actually. ‘Cause she can—she can tear strips off him. So I don’t know. I don’t see her in her work environment, and I often wonder what she’s like in that environment.
Radical Acceptance: Letting Go of What Others Can't Give
Brandy: Okay. Because she’s—yeah. So this is what I want you to think about for a moment, okay?
So notice you see both sides of her as a person, in different relationships, in different ways, right? Now I’m gonna tell you something that’s probably gonna shock you—my cat has never done my dishes. Not once. Right? Are you shocked or do you expect my cat probably wouldn’t do my dishes?
Mary: No. So I wouldn't expect my cat to do my dishes, really. Ever.
Brandy: Right? Yeah. And that’s okay. I still love it anyway. I can love it for its shortcomings. He's—he’s never done my dishes, but I still love him anyway, right? Because he can be himself and he—like, that’s who he is and what he does, right?
I can just love him for himself, even though he’s not doing—he’s not—he’s never vacuumed. It’s crazy, right? But that’s okay.
Mary: Yeah.
Brandy: And my point is, is that—notice how you feel extreme hurt. Then you want approval. Like in other words, imagine if your son was wanting all of this approval from your sister. How soon till you think he’s gonna get it?
Mary: No. Never.
Brandy: Okay. So isn’t it just—to like—imagine if I was like, okay, I just really wanted my cat to do my dishes today. I really wanted that. You’re like, Yeah Brandy, what are you like? This just—you just have to accept your cat the way your cat is, right?
Mary: Mm-hmm.
Brandy: And so the thing of it is—it’s kinda like this: Do you need your sister’s approval? What is it gonna give you? Like, if you get your sister’s approval, what do you win?
Mary: It wouldn’t be as frustrating dealing with her, I suppose. I don’t know why I want to—I don’t—
Brandy: Yeah. So really what you want is your own confidence. Because if you had your confidence around her, how much would you need her approval?
Mary: Not at all. I wouldn’t care.
Brandy: Oh. So what you really want is your own confidence, and you’re asking her for your own confidence.
Mary: Right.
Brandy: It’s not going very well.
Mary: No. Oh. Oh gosh.
Brandy: Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And then you're mad at her for not giving you your confidence.
Mary: Huh.
Brandy: I can’t believe she hasn’t given that to you yet.
Mary: Oh God.
Brandy: Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.
Breaking the Spiral and Reclaiming Confidence
Brandy: Now, the thing of it is—I want you to notice—when you speak poorly about her, it’s because you’re hurt, and you’re frustrated, and you’re angry, and you’re upset because you’re hurt. Can you see that?
Mary: Yeah.
Brandy: So the whole spiral is happening. And if only she would give you your confidence, it would feel great. And if my cat would just do the dishes, we'd be like this.
Okay, so—and I make it silly on purpose. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.
And who do you think could give you your confidence?
Mary: Only me.
Brandy: Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.
Great. Great. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.
Fantastic. Fantastic. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe.
Great job. Great job. Great job. And I'm gonna ask you to breathe.
Insight Break: Shifting Perspective and Releasing Old Patterns
Brandy: All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment for two really quick insights. And before we do, you know, first and foremost, I just love her. I love her self-awareness, her authenticity, her heart. She’s just a beautiful, beautiful, beautiful being.
And as we step in, the two insights I wanna share is this:
First and foremost, you know, I mentioned my cat’s never done the dishes. Now, part of what I was wanting to do is kind of, you know, of course take her out of her pattern and just kind of think about things in a different way—in a radically different way—because so often people are wanting something from others that they just can't give or they just don’t have inside themselves.
And then when they don’t get it, they feel hurt, they feel upset. And that’s why I knew that the idea of my cat doing the dishes is—and at the same time, you know, for some people, it—it’s like if I wanted somebody to play basketball and they just don’t play basketball, or you want somebody to do something that’s just not who they are.
And then especially when somebody feels then hurt over it, and it’s like that spiral of staying hurt. And so I wanted her to, you know, look at it and first and foremost to not want it, to not want the approval, but instead of course, working on creating the feeling of love.
Now that leads to the second insight, and it’s this:
So often, you know, almost all of the time people will have exact patterns that are opposite and they don’t necessarily see each other’s patterns. And—and I’ll give you an example. I’ve worked with people before where one person, their pattern is wanting approval, wanting approval, and let’s say the other person—their, you know, husband or sister or brother or whomever—
You know, somebody else maybe has a competitive pattern. So then what happens is one person is—is wanting approval, wanting approval, and the other person is there in their own pattern, and they’re like, Well, so-and-so’s trying to compete with me. They’re competing. They’re competing. So they’re competing more and more and more.
And the other person’s saying, Well, I just want approval. I just want to show up great and have approval. And that’s what it ends up looking like—two people in their own patterns, never really feeling like they’re getting what it is that they want, because of course, patterns breed more of the same anyway.
And then, so it shows up in different ways. And so it can be so tricky when we stop and think about patterns and consciousness and getting stuck, and patterns and perception. It’s tricky, especially in relationships.
And so when you stop and really think about it, it’s profound. And it’s also interesting, and—and just so often I’ll see people—I’ve seen people before who are both in a victim pattern where they both feel like they’re a victim to this person and they’re the victim, and they both see themselves as a victim.
And you’ve maybe even experienced that in your life where you’ve seen people—or maybe you’ve been there yourself—where one person feels like a victim and the other person feels like the victim, and they’re both seeing it, where they’re perceiving themselves as being the victim, and yet they’re both stuck in their patterns.
And it can be so triggering and also stuck. It can leave you very stuck. And so just food for thought. And what you’ll also wanna note is a lot of times these patterns can show up in different ways. Even when we think we’re getting out of it, it can show up in a different way. It presents itself in a different way.
And so that’s where we’re going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Mary.
Here we go.
Reimagining the Relationship with Her Sister
Brandy: And if I ask you, by the way, how confident your dad is, what would you say?
Mary: Oh, yeah. He’s happy with himself. He’s—he’s happy with himself. He’s always just been happy with himself.
Brandy: Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Great. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.
Bingo. Great. So imagine what your relationship—so going back to the question that I had asked you—is, what would your relationship look like with your sister? And the reason that we kind of took that side route is because you might say, Oh, but she would give me my confidence, aka approval, and she would give me that and then it would be great.
But what would it really, really look like? And—like, what would happen if you said, I’m just gonna show up and be loving and just assume that—like, A—I don’t need her confidence. Just show up and make sure she feels great. You don’t need to—okay, *I can just show up and—and connect and laugh and—and connect and be present and enjoy and create love, create—*like, your whole goal in the relationship is to:
Create love. To create connection. To create laughter. To create fun. To create that.
And that’s your goal. And you don’t need to take from it. You don’t need her—anything from her. You’re just showing up that way. What would that feel like?
Mary: It would feel pretty good, but I—I—I feel I have tried that. Asked her to go to things with me, say that I thought she would enjoy, and it’s very hard work.
Insight Break: Identifying Patterns and Taking Responsibility
Brandy: All right, so let’s go ahead and actually pause the session right here. And the reason is this: so far we’ve been talking about this pattern of approval and wanting approval, and I want to take a moment and invite you to look at your own relationships and see if there’s some pattern that you’ve been chasing that is feeling stuck.
And the reason is because so often I see people who are stuck in that very pattern, and they’re, you know, they’re chasing it. Or what can happen is this:
They might have a pattern with somebody and then they try to overcome it and it shows up somewhere else, and it shows up somewhere else. You know, if we think about patterns, they breed more of the same.
The example you hear me use all the time is—unfortunately—you know, there’s a woman—a woman can have an abusive father, leave him, grow up and find the abusive boyfriend, boss, spouse, etcetera, etcetera. That pattern can continue.
So it’s well known that, you know, patterns can breed more of the same. We could call it repetition compulsion, reenactments, attachment theory, law of attraction—whatever you want to call it, these patterns can breed more of the same.
And yet, when we change them—when we identify the pattern itself and then change it—it can be so pivotal.
And so that’s the reason that I want to pause the session right here and also because, as I continue with the session and I continue working with her, there’s a lot more. There’s a lot more things that come up regarding the topic of self-criticism and how misfired it can be in the subconscious mind, and getting her pain down and—I mean, she does a great job at that.
And so there’s just more insights and more awareness. But before we go there, I wanted to give you an opportunity to just kind of look at this and reflect on this in your own life, and notice:
Are there patterns that are showing up in your life that you really want to change?
Because the beautiful side is—is that, you know, I mentioned that I see people who are stuck all the time. But the beautiful thing is—is I see people who transform patterns all of the time in the most beautiful ways—where they take a relationship and they transform it.
Where I’ve seen people where they say, “Who would have thought that they could have so many friends,” or “have such a beautiful relationship,” or I’ve seen people go from hurt and unloved and rejection and—all of these things and feeling like they’re not included, to feeling so included and loved and happy and healthy.
And it’s brilliant. And it’s incredible what we are all capable of. But we’ve gotta take that inside of ourselves.
And what you’ll notice is, of course, our beautiful volunteer—she’s struggling with it. She’s just wanting and wanting this feeling of approval. And of course I want her to feel that approval within herself, that confidence within herself, that feeling of feeling good to just show up and be in the relationship.
And as you notice what’s happening is—she thought she got rid of the pattern. She thought she was like, Well, you know, I’m getting rid of it. I’m just gonna go do something. But notice what she also says is—she tried to do something that she liked.
So again, she was trying to please her in it. And it’s not about not pleasing people. It’s not about not getting approval. It’s about showing up and genuinely already feeling full of it—of having it, having that confidence, having that feeling of self-love within herself and not the self-criticism as well.
And so really changing that pattern. Really radically feeling in a different way. And so that’s ultimately what she wanted. Notice—she was basically just chasing it in another way.
And patterns can be tricky. As I mentioned in the very beginning, you know, even going through my injury, I noticed that patterns were showing up in different ways. And once I really got it and rewired my mind at a deeper level, it was pivotal.
But the subconscious mind can be so counterintuitive. And so, you know, the first step is really starting to just identify those patterns.
And so that’s where I want to leave it—just taking a moment, inviting you to reflect on this in your own life and noticing:
Can you identify a pattern that’s going on that you would like to transform in your relationships? And start there—and really being willing to change it.
A Loving Invitation to Share and Uplift Others
Brandy: All right. So that’s the insight from today’s episode. And again, as I mentioned, on the next half of this session—so as we continue on with beautiful Mary—we’re gonna go deeper into releasing pain, into releasing self-criticism and getting out of that spiral.
And so—and there’s other pieces to it as well that are also actually affecting her relationship with her sister. So it’s—there’s multiple pieces, but just want to pause it here for a moment.
Take a breath. Reflect. And we’ll continue.
So that said, before we wrap up, I want to ask you also to take just a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about—or somebody you don’t even know.
Because the more that every single person in our world is happy, and healthy, and loved, and loving, the better this world is for all of us. And so please do take a quick moment to hit the share button.
And please do make a point to have a most wonderful, happy, healthy, incredible rest of your day.
And I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.
We’ll see you there.
Final Words of Gratitude and Empowerment
Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life.
All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or helped them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are.
If today’s episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really need it.
As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations—to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of.
And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind.
You are incredible.
And I do want to be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You’ll want to remember that there’s so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize.
That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at:
brandygillmore.com/podcast
And if you’re currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.
Lastly—please remember: if you do have any health issues, you won’t want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you’ll want to continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind.
Thank you.
