Introduction
Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life.
My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it’s become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.
Each week, I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind. And then I’ll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.
Let’s begin.
Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it and I love today’s episode for so many reasons. It just has this unique edge and insight. And it’s just, it’s mind expanding and powerful in depth and it just, it just, it’s beautiful.
So I love that. And I also love our volunteer. His name is Alfred and he’s just the sweetest guy. You are absolutely going to love him. He’s just so authentic and sweet and kind, and I mean, just a beautiful, beautiful being. And what’s interesting from this episode is you’ll notice. How clearly you can see that his mind is working against him in a way that’s not even accurate.
And by the way, all of the time you’ll hear me say, you know that the mind can get mis wired. And an example you’ll hear me use all of the time is that unfortunately, even somebody can get it linked up in their mind that if they cut themselves, they can feel relief or euphoria or control or safety from cutting themselves.
Now, of course. They don’t do that on purpose, but I use that with so much compassion. But I use that example because we can see that the mind can do things that just don’t make logical sense. And that is so true with anything really. And so one of the things that I love about this episode, as you can see exactly that, how our minds can keep us in fear or keep us stuck or create erred thinking.
That is affecting every part of our lives, from our happiness to our health, to relationships, dating, all of that. And so that is part of where we’re going today. Now another piece that we’re gonna talk about is the topic about how, thinking about what other people feel or worried about, what other people feel can keep you so stuck.
And by the way. Even in my own life, I went through that of being so afraid of what other people thought, and I had to fix that. You know, it was keeping me stuck around this gift, this ability, you know, when I first got this ability to feel what other people felt. I didn’t want anybody to know, so I did not share it at first, and part of the reason I didn’t share it was because I didn’t even know how to describe it or explain it.
That was one thing, but I also thought, okay, well people are just gonna think I’m crazy. I can feel what other people feel. Now, of course, I. I’ve been working with the mine for over 20 years now. So even going back, you know, even going back when I got this ability back in 2000, like 10, 2011, right in there, when I started getting this ability, I.
It just, it was so new. And I would say part of the reason also that I thought people are gonna think that it’s crazy is because I was raised, you know, baptized Lutheran and my whole family was Lutheran and Christian. And then, so growing up and in this, you know, in that. Type of without type of upbringing.
And then having this ability to feel what other people feel, just it. It was like, you know, the head of this fear. What are people gonna think? And so that was something that initially held me back for a bit. Now, what I did personally is I resolved the inner issues with it, the inner emotions that I had with it, and also stopped caring so much what people thought.
And I also started showing healing under medical equipment. So then it was like I could validate it and show it so people could actually see mind body healing. So for me personally, I did a combination of a few things. I definitely shifted my mindset, but then as I did, then I had ideas come through so I could help.
Normalize it, you know, and by the way, that kind of actually speaks to the last podcast episode that we just did about creating an interchange. And then as we create that interchange, we also make sure to do actionable changes as well. Now that’s what I did in my own life to move through that fear of what people are thinking.
And so that was really powerful for me. Now, in this case, what you’re going to notice with our beautiful volunteer. Is that it actually shows up in a different way for him in a way that is connected at a deeper level and is even creating so much fear. It’s keeping him stuck from everything and also affecting his health.
And so that’s where we’re going. And again, I’m gonna tell you, you are absolutely going to love this man. He is such a sweetheart. And so on that note, let’s go ahead and dive in with our beautiful volunteer Alfred. Here we go.
Hello.
Hello.
Hi,
how are you? Good to see you.
Likewise. It’s wonderful to connect with you. How’s your day going?
Oh, it’s going pretty good at this point. Yeah.
I like that. I like that. I like that. What can I help you with today? Beautiful.
Uh, I don’t know. Do we? What? What’s the usual protocol?
Whatever you would like help with.
Are you working on pain today? My team has my, I know you fill out paperwork with my team. Um, yeah, yeah, yeah. What is your goal for today? What, what would you like to work on?
Well, I got this, I got this bladder, this bladder problem. It’s, it’s been up for me for a while and it’s, it’s, um, overactive bladder that leads to leaking.
So it’s, you know, a form of incontinence that’s, um, I can’t, I can’t hold my urine more than three hours. And when I, when I hold it that long, it’s very, it’s, it’s difficult to get to the bathroom on time. So, um,
okay. Okay. So, um, bingo. All right, so gimme one second. Bingo. There we go. Bingo. Uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe
and, um, bingo. And I’m gonna ask you to notice the part, the feeling. Um, bingo. Bingo. And I’m gonna ask you to notice the feeling of feeling easily. Um. Uh, it is, I guess feeling of feeling like nervous and embarrassed. Um, at the same time, if I ask you to notice that feeling, how much can you find that feeling?
Oh, yeah, it’s right here.
Okay. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe and I’m gonna ask you to notice what it feels like. Notice what it feels like. To feel nervous and embarrassed. And there’s also like a nervous, embarrassed, and also kind of like a, if we were to name it, also like a feeling of like shy on the inside.
Also like nervous, embarrassed, shy type of feeling. You’re familiar with that, right?
Yes.
Okay. Um, bingo.
Bingo. Um, and there’s another feeling that I would add in. There’s a feeling of feeling also, uh, humiliated inside. You’re familiar with that feeling, correct? Yes. Okay. So, uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe bingo. I’m gonna ask you to breathe and I’m gonna ask you to notice the part of you,
uh, best and highest. Bingo. Gimme one second.
I’m gonna ask you to notice the part of you that is frequently, uh, feeling humiliated. But if I ask you, uh, do you really need that feeling? Like, is that feeling when you stop and think about it?
Bingo. When you stop and think about it, do you need to feel humiliated?
Do you need to
feel embarrassed?
No, I don’t.
Bingo.
Now, if I ask you, by the way, if I ask you how much attention you got growing up for being a bit shy, what would you say?
Oh, geez.
Way too much. Bingo. I was a, I was a blusher. Okay. I was a blusher. So notice how you feel like you’re a blusher, and also how you feel like you’ve got a lot of attention for it and love for it.
So notice there’s a part of you who identifies as that’s who you are, and also a part of you who feels like you get attention and acknowledgement for being shy. Can you see that?
Yeah. Oh yeah. Okay.
So if I ask you, who would you be without it?
Um,
so I’m gonna ask you to breathe and notice You don’t know. Can you see that? Yeah. Yeah. So what I want you to notice is this feeling of feeling shy, of feeling like a blusher, but this feeling. So much ingrained as to part of who you are, that there’s a part of you that doesn’t know who you would be without it.
That makes sense? Yeah.
Yeah. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe
and notice how you’ve used it as a way of connecting with people. You can see that right?
Not by choice. Okay. It was like a negative. It was always a negative experience for me.
Bingo. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe
now. It was always a negative experience, so when somebody called you a blusher said you were shy. Notice the other part of you who felt a sense of acknowledgement and Yeah, yeah,
yeah, yeah. Tension.
But yeah. Again, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
All right, so let’s go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love him. I love his self-awareness. I love his self-honesty. I love his wisdom and his, just his awareness and even his comment where he just said. You know, I didn’t do that on purpose. Like he didn’t put it there on purpose.
And I love that awareness that, you know, so often people might beat themselves up for what’s in their mind. They, you know, criticize themselves and feel bad or judgmental. But I love his awareness that says, you know, I didn’t link that up on purpose. And it’s so true. And. It’s just so important to emphasize this because sometimes people will feel a sense of anger or hurt or self blame, and then it’s like, or whatever it is, or guilty about something and it’s like they beat themselves up for beating themselves up.
You know? It’s like that feeling. So what I love is that he didn’t put it in there, or even, you know, in my own case, in my injury, you know, I had this subconscious fear and nine 11 and, and all of that programming and I didn’t. Put it there on purpose. And so when you can come from that mindset of not.
Blaming self for what’s in your subconscious mind, but also not feeling victim to it is also really important. And so on that note, you’ll notice as we’re coming up, he goes into a part that’s more emotional, where he’s feeling, you know, he says, you know, he is tormented by this feeling of embarrassment and, and feeling that way.
And you’ll notice by the way, that I can have compassion. So I acknowledge it, but. I also don’t go into, oh my gosh, I’m so sorry you felt that way. And of course I have compassion. I have absolute compassion, but I don’t wanna reinforce it either. And this is what I mean is that I. All of the time, people end up reinforcing negative patterns.
And the example you hear me use, you know, if somebody says, oh, I look so horrible in this dress or shirt, or whatever it is, and somebody else says what they say, no you don’t. You look amazing. And that then gets linked up in the subconscious mind where somebody criticizes themselves and. Then they get the compliment.
And so those two things get linked together. And so if he goes into all of this hurt and wounding, and I rush in with, oh, I’m so sorry, and I put a bunch of love around it, his mind is never going to let it go instead. Just being willing to acknowledge it. And so you’ll notice that moving through it in a way that’s kind, but also making sure not to give the problem, love and sympathy, because if not, it just stays around.
And so that’s where we’re going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer Alfred. Here we go.
Okay. And notice how it even brings up tears for you, right? Okay, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Yeah. Now this is the thing. What’s that?
It was excruciating for me.
Mm-hmm. Go ahead.
Uh, I, I just, I was so tormented by the possibility of, of blushing that. When a teacher would call on me to, to stand up and say something, it was like, Hey, I would hear sneakers.
Oh, look at how he, look at how ready he’s, look at how ready he’s, mm-hmm. It turned, it turned, it turned me into, uh, it turned into anger at some point where I felt like, okay, shut, shut up. Talk. Stop saying that. Mm-hmm. Doesn’t, you know, I’m just like, people would say that and I. Like girls would say that and I would just,
mm-hmm.
Okay. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Well that’s interesting. Right? Interesting. Okay. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
Interesting.
Okay. That’s interesting, right? That’s interesting.
That’s very interesting.
Oh, that’s interesting. That was there. That’ll be fun to get rid of, won’t it?
Be fun to get rid of outta your subconscious mind.
Absolutely.
Because it’s not even who you are anymore and it doesn’t need to be who you are, right?
Absolutely not.
Great. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe, and I want you to notice also how your mom would give you, there’s a feeling of nurture around it with your mom, where feeling like she would give you nurture and love for it.
Can you see that? Can you see it?
Um, not real clear.
Okay. So, uh, if I ask you if you were feeling shy, how much did your mom give you extra nurture and love because of feeling shy.
Can’t I can’t put the two together in my childhood? I
Okay.
Yeah, go ahead. It was so rare that I got any nurturing or love from her that it, I, I, you know, I don’t, I don’t remember the word shy being associated with, or being shy, but associated with her nurturing me in anyway, but, okay.
It’s possible, you know, that she, without her expressing it or without me knowing that.
Okay, so, so let’s go this direction. Okay. If I ask you how much you felt like your mom was a really, uh, like, it’s like a hard, strict type of, uh, energy, what would you say?
A hundred percent. Yeah, a
hundred percent. Okay.
So I’m gonna ask you to breathe, and if I ask you how much that intimidated you, what would you say?
Oh God. I mean, I was, uh, constantly, I was totally, you know, I was totally frightened over Ashish.
Uhhuh,
scared the heck outta me,
Uhhuh. And if you broke down or you were, uh, feeling red or embarrassed or whatnot, if I ask you how much there’s a part of you who would feel like it would soften her or make mercy type of feeling, what would you say?
Protection would be another word. Um, it’s kinda like this.
Yeah.
Uh, you, do you see what I’m talking about?
Yeah. I see. I totally see what you’re talking about. I’m just trying to, I’m trying to see that in my, in, in my life. Uh,
um, bingo. Gimme, gimme one second because this, this is part of the issue, just so you know.
Uh, gimme one second because, um, so part of the issue is, is this. Um, bingo. Uh, gimme one second. So if we jump back for just a second. Yeah. Remember when you said earlier I said this, like, it’s so wrapped up in your identity. There’s like a part of you who doesn’t know who you would be without it. Can you see that?
Yeah, absolutely. Yeah,
exactly. So the, so the, the reality of it is, is that I was actually going to stop the session right there. And this is the reason why. Imagine for a moment if you said that you’re taking something away from me. That is, that is my identity, and I don’t know who I am without it. Who do I become then?
Nobody.
Nobody. Or how can, but how can I become nobody? So my point is, is this is what you really wanna do. Is, get it programmed into your mind, who you are without it, because you don’t wanna become a nobo. Like your identity and who you are is so wrapped up in it that it’s like you and it’s like you need to decide who are you without it, how are you without it?
And need to see that because otherwise it’s like taking away. Your protective piece. Um, it’s taking away, uh, your identity. It’s, it’s, it’s so wrapped up. Notice how it’s kinda like this. Uh, if somebody said, I’m an angry person, and it’s how I keep myself safe, it’s just who I am. I’m an angry person, and it’s my protector and it’s my identity.
Who are they without it and how to be without it. Does that make sense?
Yeah. Yeah.
So the thing of it is, is that they would really need to change the way they see themselves. Does that make sense?
Yes.
Now, could I help you get programming in your mind? The answer is yes and no. Because I don’t get to decide who you get to be.
You get to decide who you want to be and how you want to be. Not on a whim, but I, so that’s where I wanna actually take this is exactly that, is I want to invite you to sit down and think about who are you without that pat, this pattern, and who are you becoming? So I want you to. Like I identifying and seeing yourself the next you, the new you, who you are becoming and feeling proud to be that guy.
Does that make sense?
Yeah. I, it does. I can, I can see, I can see where I can see pots that I, that would, would help me to become, that would like, like being more confident, being more bold, being more. Courageous with myself, you know, with taking, taking care of myself and, um,
okay. Now, by the way, uh, bingo. Gimme one second. Uh, are you married?
Not anymore. No.
Bingo. That’s why. Okay. I saw, I saw a partner far away. Uh, bingo. And gimme one second. And you have kids
one? Yeah.
Okay. Um, bingo. So let me go this way. Um, bingo. Uh, if I ask you how much you felt like you lacked attention. And love in life in general.
What would you say?
A lot.
Bingo. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe now, you’ve heard me say on past episodes or whatnot. You hear me say that, you know, if a, if a child doesn’t get positive attention, they’ll get what?
Negative attention.
Bingo. So. Notice for a moment how much attention, even though it’s unwanted, how much attention you have felt like you’ve gotten around blushing and how it’s been like, it’s been very, very big right now.
If that was gone, how would you get attention?
I deserve it. You know, I took, I don’t,
okay.
I don’t, you know, I deserve to have attention. Yeah. Just because I’m, I’m alive.
I agree. I didn’t, I didn’t say you didn’t deserve it. Everybody deserves it. Absolutely. You’re right. Yeah. But how you get attention and love
by being a good person.
Great. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
Being kind, being helpful, being supportive.
Great. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe Bingo. And I have to say again, um,
I’m getting the universal notch to actually leave it right here. Your identity is so wrapped up in it that getting your new identity and who you are and really getting that in is, is going to be key for making that change. Because it’s like taking away your, you’ve identified so much with I am a blusher, uh, that it’s, it’s, it’s defined you, uh, and it hasn’t, but your mind has let it define you.
Does that make sense?
Mm-hmm.
Bingo. Uh, so I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Gimme one second.
All right, so let’s go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, first and foremost, again, I love his self-awareness. And what I also really love is just when we stop and look at the big picture, it is truly incredible that we get to create ourselves and who we are and in life in general. And you know, when you stop and think about it, if you picture a computer, I.
And you could put anything on that computer that you want. You could put gaming on the computer, you could put work on the computer, you could put games on the computer, you could, or a, a robot, if you will, and you can program a robot to do this or be this, or how it is, you know, the awareness that we really can program who we are and transform who we are.
Is incredible when you stop and think about it. And so in this way there’s a few things, you know, there are a few important things to note is, first and foremost, I want him to be able to decide to create who he is and I can’t give that to him. So there’s a, there’s a sticky spot there, but then something else that is really important is this.
Is that his mom was very, very, like the energy of his mom was very, very, very strong of intimidating, scaring him, telling him what to do. And so at the same time. It’s not for me to then come in and tell him who to be, wouldn’t be fair. It’s like taking advantage of, it’s controlling somebody who’s controllable, if you will.
Um, and so, so the reason I’m asking him to really. Step in and decide who he wants to be is because part of his growth is also stepping into his empowerment and realizing he is the one who gets to be in control. And if I say, oh, this is who you are now, then I’m not really doing him. The service of him being that and him, um, being able to step into his power and fully, and that’s.
Part of his healing in not only with his life and his health, but with his relationship and just life in general. And you’ll see what I mean coming up because there’s this inner fear and insecurity that is so deep that part of feeling secure. Is the self image, but also is, uh, making decision is there’s just, there’s, there’s pieces to it.
There’s more pieces to it. So my point is, what you’ll wanna notice is sometimes the idea of taking a, an action in your life or making a decision in your life when you feel like you’ve been stuck, but making that decision to move forward. Is an empowerment that’s needed because you can always continue to make more and more and more decisions.
And so right here, there’s a decision and a clarity that’s needed for him to really step in who he is. And so I’m inviting you, of course to think about that in your own life of the decision to step into the next version of you. So food for thought. But what you’ll notice coming up also is more about that mom energy and sometimes.
A lot of people will have that in varying degrees. Sometimes it might be a mother who’s extremely controlling or maybe just even an authoritative figure that was, you know, had an authority or a control. But then overcoming that to step into your. Power in life, if that makes sense. So we’ll unpack this even more, but you’ll see what I mean coming up.
All right, let’s dive back in with beautiful Alfred. Here we go.
Uh, this is the other thing it says is if I ask you, it’s kinda like this, notice the level of insecurity that you have felt in life, zero to 10, how high.
Uh, 10.
10, right? So as you get this new identity and new vision of self and you get this new information programmed in your mind, if I ask you, is that gonna make you feel more secure or less secure, or the same?
More secure.
Bingo. More secure. Right? So a, a way to think about it is like this. You’ve seen me push people on last, on past episodes, right? Where sometimes somebody’s stuck and I’ll push ’em and whatnot. Right? Now, let’s say somebody has a level 10 of insecurity. If I push somebody who’s, it’s kinda like this.
If somebody’s running as fast as they can and you push them, is it helpful for them or does it tip ’em over?
It tips ’em over.
It tips ’em over. Now, if somebody needs to get running, the, the analogy that I use, somebody standing in front of a bus and a bus is coming in, standing in front of a bus and a bus is coming, you push them out of the way.
How much does it help them?
A hundred percent. A hundred percent.
So in the right situation, if you push somebody, it can be very helpful and be help. Very helpful. But if somebody’s already running as fast as you can and you push them, it knocks them over. Right? So. The thing of it is, is that, uh, in your situation, I don’t wanna push.
What I want you to do is start getting that vision of who you are, uh, and start without this pattern and start getting that in as your new vision of self so it feels secure. So it feels good, and start getting that into your mindset. Does that make sense?
Oh, yeah. Yeah. That’s what I want.
Bingo. Um, gimme one second.
Yes. Bingo. Okay. Uh, bingo. Um, bingo. We’ll go here. Also, there’s another piece I was like, I, it won’t let me push. Um, bingo. Uh, it won’t let me push, but there’s another angle that I could add a piece to, and it’s this. Uh, if I ask you zero to 10 how much you’re wanting to be in a relationship, what would you say?
Uh. Five.
And if I ask you how much you’re afraid of actually going in that direction of having a relationship, what would you say?
Very.
Mm-hmm.
Okay. About a 10, right? So,
yeah, it’s not quite a 10, but it’s, it’s up there. Yeah. Yep.
So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Now, notice how. You are telling yourself that as long as you have these health issues, that you have to wait until this is fixed before you can then go towards a relationship.
Can you see that?
Yeah.
So notice if you were a hundred percent healed, you would actually lose your excuse.
Oh.
You have such a beautiful sense of humor. I love that. I love that you’re fun. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
All right, so let’s go ahead and pause it just for a quick moment. You know, I just love him. I love his sense of humor, his self-awareness, just his self-honesty, just brilliant and beautiful. And when I said that, you know, he would lose his excuse really, you know, with the depth to that. There’s fear regarding it.
And so, you know, the fear of moving forward, and of course. It also has to do with the awareness that he’s not seeing himself in an accurate light. He’s just this wonderful, beautiful being, and yet he has this errored self-image that isn’t even accurate, which of course would make him. Feel afraid to date, et cetera, et cetera, so you can see how everything is really connected.
And so that’s where we’re going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer Alfred. Here we go.
You know, it’s interesting, again, you hear me on past episodes and I’ll definitely push people. I’m not allowed, like with your energy, that is not, it’s not going to be helpful for you. And so what you need to know, you, and, and part of the reason is because your mother was also so, uh, strong. Uh, you can see that, right?
And you felt, uh. Terrified by her. Squashed by her, right?
Yeah.
Um, and so, uh, that’s a feeling that you’re going to want to clean up as well. But first, moving forward, what I want you to do again, it’s just so wrapped up in your identity, um, that I want you to start feeling more secure in self. It’s kind of like this, let’s say.
I pictured myself like I’m a monkey, uh, and I feel like I’m not supposed to be. How secure do I feel in life if I’m picturing myself like a monkey and I feel like I’m not supposed to be right? So it’s like you are picturing your different from everybody else and that you are a blusher and you’re seeing yourself as like a flawed picture of self.
Does that make sense?
Yeah. Yeah.
So it’s going to be, so what, uh, so that core of starting to see yourself. In a different way is going to be very, very key. And then as far as the healing piece, there are other pieces that need to come in there, which is also, uh, as you feel secure and self, it will also help you to feel more secure in moving towards a relationship.
Um, and feeling good about that. Does that make sense? Beautiful.
Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yeah, for sure.
Bingo. Great. Alright. So if I ask Universe, it says, we’re complete. I’m not allowed to push, but it, it wants you to start there and really start, um, seeing yourself, um, in a more positive light and starting to get that programming in.
Even just starting to visualize that and get that in each day. Does that make sense?
Yes.
Beautiful. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful. Um, bingo. You’re not flawed, you’re not broken, okay? You’re not so different. Uh, we’re all incredible beings, including you. Um, and it, it just needs an update in that self image.
Make sense
in that programming? Yeah. Great. Software, software update, software update,
software correction. You’re more amazing than you realized. Okay. Bingo. Beautiful. I love your self-awareness. I love it at that. Again, I’m not allowed to push. Um, and that’s not what’s gonna be helpful for you. So I want you to get that in and get that programming in.
Uh, so you start, uh, feeling that sense of safety on the inside. Okay?
Yeah.
So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. Now. I wanna summarize everything we talked about.
Okay.
A short summary is this. I say you really wanna update your self image, so you wanna get a new picture of you. So you wanna get a new picture of you, of who you are.
Okay?
So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. So I’m gonna ask you to see yourself and your next version of you. So you see yourself walking around. You’re not a blusher. You’re a healthy guy.
You’re a healthy, wonderful, amazing, incredible guy.
Thank you. That feels so good. So
what?
That feels so good when you say that,
Uhhuh. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe
now. If I ask you. Did your fear go up, down or the same?
It’s down. Way down. Bit down
or uhhuh? Way down.
Way down. Yeah. Way down. Uhhuh.
So I’m gonna ask you to breathe,
but the thing of it is, is if I give you your who you are. Like you need to be the one to give you who you are. Does that make sense?
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. So I want you to picture
that you’re a healthy, wonderful, amazing man. You’re not a blusher. You’re a healthy, wonderful, amazing guy who’s nice, who’s caring, who’s a good guy. It’s just who you are. It’s just who you are.
It’s just who you are.
I’m taking it in. I’m taking it in.
Yes. If I ask you to notice how much safer you feel right now, what would you say?
Totally safe.
Exactly. So your self image. Is keeping you in a place that feels so unsafe. The way you see yourself is triggering you into a place of feeling inferior and not good and embarrassed and like, it, it, it’s scared, but it’s not even accurate.
So notice there’s a difference. In other words, watch this. Let’s say that there’s a person who pictures themselves. Um, they picture themselves graduating college or whatever it is, and they feel proud of themselves, like that’s the next level of them right now. That’s nice to feel proud of themselves, but what I want you to notice, I, there’s one way to feel proud of self, but notice yours helps you feel.
Safety. Does that make sense? So your current self image, the way you see yourself, is in a, is creating a lot of fear and embarrassment and insecurity just in your own self image of self. Does that make sense?
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Totally.
Bingo. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
And watch your nervous system. You see yourself as an amazing, wonderful, wonderful man. He’s just a nice guy. Now, notice how much relief you feel. Notice how much more you can breathe and relax. Do you notice that?
Yeah. My whole body is like, is like quivering with, with joy or just relaxed. Uh, oh my God.
Bingo. So the reason that I can’t push on anything else is because it needs you to get this programming in, of seeing yourself and updating yourself image. Does that make sense?
Yeah. Yeah, for sure. Yeah, totally.
Bingo. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe.
All right, so let’s go ahead and pause it for just a quick moment. You know, again, I just love him. I love him. I love his self-awareness. He’s so beautiful. And what I wanna point out here is notice there’s a feeling of. Relief here. And the reason that I point that out is because his self-image is so errored, it’s so negative towards self that it’s not even accurate.
So it’s not like where a person may want to continue to expand their self-image to, you know, go to the next level of life and the next version of who they are and expand and grow. In his case, it’s so errored. If you will, that it’s a, it’s affecting him in a negative way where it’s really feeling horrible and insecure and it doesn’t even align with who he really is.
So it is an aired programming in his case, and he’s just a sweet, lovely, wonderful being who’s spiritually aware and awake, and yet that error is going on. And so I just, I love that. He’s seeing this now. And that’s the part that I wanted to point out is that when we have aired programming, even with this self image, it can affect health, happiness, life, relationships, everything.
And so I just, I love this so much and so I just, I love his awareness and just beautiful. So let’s go ahead and dive back in with Alfred. Here we go.
Now what I want you to notice also, and I’m not sure if I’m gonna be able to communicate this clearly or you’ll s see it, but here, here we go. If I ask you to notice the part of you who has kind of felt like you’re not really a man, uh, can you see that?
Uh, yes.
Yeah. So I’m gonna ask kinda like a, seeing yourself as like a, a weak man, a lesser than, like a inferior man, if you will.
You, you get my point, like a, yeah. Bingo. Yeah. Yeah. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe and so you see yourself. That’s a wonderful, nice guy. You see yourself as a wonderful, it’s just who you are. A wonderful, nice guy. A blusher. Just a wonderful, wonderful, nice guy. It’s who you are. Now, notice how much your whole nervous system relaxes.
Can you see that?
Oh, yeah. Yeah.
Notice. Notice it brings tears to your eye. Notice how your whole body is like, ah. Oh, you feel it?
Look it.
Look
it
how big your smile
is.
Oh,
oh God.
So I’m gonna ask you to breathe and you start to see how important this is. By the way, if I ask you from this place. Do you feel more like dating less or the same?
More
uhhuh? More,
more, more, you know? Yeah. I can feel, I, I can, you know, I, I can feel the warmth in, in being with somebody and the connection rather than the fear of being with somebody in this, in this moment.
Bingo. So that’s what I want you to work on, is I want you actually to go through my video course and I want you to focus on, as you do, I want you to focus on up the, especially the parts with updating yourself image and getting that in and defining it. Because again, the part that I’m a bit stuck here is I want you to.
To see yourself image and get it in. And get it in because I can’t define you. Uh, but not only that, but you don’t want me to like the, like, in other words, um, it’s good for you to feel that sense of creating you. So that’s what’s amazing. It’s like in this life, uh, we get to create who we are. Right? And so, um.
So that’s what I want you to, because that’s what’s errored and it’s messing you up. But notice from that place of feeling, that updated self image, your fear about dating goes away. And instead you actually feel like it would be fun, it would be great. Fear about life goes away. Life feels more fun. Does that make sense?
Like if I ask you to notice for a moment. Notice when you see yourself, you’re a really great, nice, wonderful man. It’s who you are. You’re a great guy. It’s just who you are.
Yes, I see that.
If I ask you how much safer you feel in life,
totally. Totally safe.
Yeah. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe. That’s where I want you to focus on is really updating your self image.
Does that make sense? Beautiful.
Yes, it does.
Do you see how important this is?
Oh, absolutely. Yeah. Did you,
so I’m gonna ask you to breathe. So do you see how important it is to update your self-image? Do you see that?
Yeah. Yeah. Great. Great. I wanna, I wanna focus on that.
Yep, yep, yep, yep. Exactly. Exactly. So I’m gonna ask you to breathe and I’m gonna ask you to be willing to change.
Does that make sense?
Yeah, yeah. Of course.
Great. Great. Great. Great, great, great. You so much. You’re welcome. So much. It’s been a pleasure. Thank you.
All right, so let’s go ahead and bring everything together. And first and foremost, again, I just love him. What an absolute sweetheart. And also, notice how the mind can be really erred. I mean, here he is this wonderful, beautiful being. Who’s smart, who’s great, who’s kind, who’s a good person, and yet. His image of self is so skewed even since childhood to where, you know, he’s feeling humiliated and embarrassed and shy just at the idea of being called on.
Like there’s, you know, something wrong with him and there’s not, other than the fact that he’s had this errored programming, the way he’s seeing himself is errored. Now, by the way, in some cases. That’s what can happen is, you know, everybody’s mind works a little bit different and there’s different pieces to the puzzle, but what can happen is a person can take in the feeling like, oh, I’m a blusher.
I am this, I am that. Where it comes in also, not just as a pattern and yes, a pattern, but also as an identity and, and so what happens is then it just continues to diminish self and so. That’s the point that I wanna bring in is really that ultimately there are key pieces to the mind for healing. That addressing each piece is so important.
And you may have heard me say even on past episodes that you know, in some cases a person may have an identity. As being a person who is sick, in which case, if that’s in their identity, they may try to heal themselves and then have a different illness and then heal themselves and have a different illness.
And that too can perpetuate the problem. And I’ve seen that, you know, many times unfortunately, it can get stuck. And so what I love about this episode also is that it helps you to see. That there are multiple pieces that are needed for healing. And the reason why that is important is this is so often people will say, you know, they’ve been working on healing themselves.
So you’ve seen people you know who have been trying to heal themselves for 10, 20, 30, 40, 50 years. And they come into my programs and they finally see, oh, this is what it takes to heal themselves and they can see it and get results. And one of the things that is specific. Is the pieces about multiple ingredients that is profound, meaning this, you may hear me use the example all of the time, that we know that stress affects the physical body.
We’ve all heard that before. Stress affects the physical body and we know that. But we can also see that there are people who are stressed and even have PTSD and severe trauma. Who aren’t sick, and that was one of the things during my injury that really opened my mind. I said, well, wait a second. If negative emotions and mindset can affect the health of the body, then how come it’s not happening with everybody?
How come there can be people who are. Really negative and who aren’t sick, how does that work? And that’s when I started understanding that there were multiple keys, multiple ingredients, if you will. And the analogy you hear me use all the time is like cake is, you know, if somebody wants to make cake and they have flour.
They can’t make cake, but if they have flour and they mix it with eggs and butter, or vegan eggs and butter or whatnot, and other ingredients, now they can make cake. You know, not that I’m a big fan of cake, but just saying that there’s certain ingredients. You mix together, you have a certain outcome. And if you mix different ingredients, you have a completely different outcome.
And that’s the key in working with the mind is addressing the different pieces. And so we can see, in this case, there are multiple pieces going on. I. But one of the keys to actually healing in his case is going to be updating his self-image. And you can see how it affects multiple areas of his life. And so it’s key for safety, for relationships, just so many pieces of the puzzle.
And so the point that I wanna invite you to take from this. There can be different keys and different pieces, and you’ll wanna take whatever is specific to you and genuinely be willing to change it. And so food for thought on this, food for thought for yourself. Image, food for thought, for what the combination of pieces are, of key ingredients, if you will, are for you.
And also remember to remember that healing really does. Take a genuine change. So notice I’m asking him to really make that genuine transformation. So all the time you hear me say, I make things look really, really easy, and I do, but it does take that real genuine change. And so I just, I love the insights from this.
And of course, by the way, if you are somebody who is working on healing yourself, I’d strongly recommend. Going through my video course, I can tell you that it tells you and it helps you to work with the mind at a deeper level and addresses all of these different factors that are key for healing.
Because let’s be honest, self-healing can be very tricky and there are different pieces. And so just pointing that out, keeping that in mind and keeping in mind that how you feel about yourself. Is also key for healing, for transformation, for life. And so just bringing that awareness and inviting you to make sure to apply that to your life.
Alright, so it has been such a pleasure connecting with you today. And as always, I wanna ask you to please do. Take a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don’t even know. Because the more that every single person is happy, and healthy and loved and loving, the better this world is for all of us.
And so please do. Take a quick moment to hit the share button and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, happy, healthy, incredible rest of your day, and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We’ll see you there.
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And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results. But the point is. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own.
I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You’ll wanna remember that there’s so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at BrandyGillmore.com/podcast.
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