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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life.
My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life.
Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.
Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.
I'll even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health, yourself, and your life.
Let's begin.
A Fun and Insightful Episode Ahead
Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you.
I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it and I just love today's episode for so many reasons.
First and foremost, the topic of self-criticism or even the feeling of letting go of trauma and really moving beyond it — or even the complexities of the mind, the reason that it can hold onto things and it feels hard to let go of them and hard to really change…
There are just so many insights on today’s episode — even the importance of energy, the connection to universe, I mean, just so many insights.
A Volunteer With Humor and Heart
And on top of that, our volunteer is just beautiful, like her sense of humor just cracks me up.
In fact, as I was going through these sessions — you know, working on the insights and adding additional insights to them — I was laughing as I was going through and just adding the additional insights.
So I love that.
She's just really good with the sense of humor and banter, and her and I are, you know, just laughing back and forth in a fun, beautiful way.
Again, I just love so many insights about this episode.
Connection with Energy, the Universe, and Gaia
Now something you're also going to notice is we talk a bit about connection with energy, universe, divine, and the mind and energy around us.
So we touch on that a bit. And on that…
Recently, I was just featured in a series called Divine Science, which is really, you know, the science behind divine connection, universe, spiritual connection, energetic connection, energy — all of that, mind expansion — all of that.
And I'm going to go ahead and have my team leave a link to that in the show notes because, you know, if you know me, you know that I love also, you know, spirituality and expansiveness, but I also love grounding it in science and the understanding behind it.
The Intersection of Science and Spirituality
And you know, both — the expansion and the science — and where that merges and comes together and it all makes sense. And so I love that.
So for that reason, I’ll have a link added in the show notes.
And by the way, this is on Gaia, so this is featured on Gaia again. And if you're not familiar with Gaia — which I know a lot of people are — but if you're not, an easy way to think about them is like Netflix for spirituality.
They just — they have a lot of different spiritual mindsets, you know, series, shows, all of that.
And so this new one that just released is part of a Divine Science series.
And so again, I'll go ahead and leave a link in the show notes so you have a direct link for it.
Divine Timing & Playfulness
But my point being is just that as we dive into today's episode, you'll notice that I am talking about some of the expansion energy of the mind, and energy and the world around us and the interconnectedness and, and so it's just kind of divine timing on that note as well.
So either way, on that note, we're going to go ahead and dive in.
And as we do, please bring your sense of humor and your playfulness because it is — it's funny. She's just — she's great, she's silly, she's fun and just a beautiful, beautiful banter.
And also, of course, we're talking about serious topics as well, letting go of some trauma and hurt and of course working on healing.
Healing and Letting Go
You know, she has been suffering with ulcerative colitis and a variety of different other symptoms and whatnot going on.
And so you'll also notice that even when it comes to the parts with trauma and creating change, etc., I do push her a bit to really change because you know — especially when your health is connected to a problem — you really, really, really want to change it.
And so that too is part of where we're going.
A Quick Note: This is Part Two
So let's go ahead and dive in now.
Lastly, before we do, there's one last thing I want to share, which is to remember that this is Part Two of her session, meaning that when I worked with her, I had one session and it was about an hour long or so, maybe a little bit less…
And by the time, you know, I add in insights and additional information, it would be a two-hour podcast.
And so instead of doing that, I divided the session into two parts, and last week we listened to Part One, and today we're going to listen to the second half of her session.
Shifting Out of Self-Criticism
Now, let's say you develop a different process — where you don't get upset with yourself.
Because if you're just upset — so this is what happens, right?
Let's say somebody makes a mistake, then their immediate go-to is:
Beat self up. Beat self up. Beat self up.
How much is their mind available for a solution?
It's not, right? It's not. It's not.
But they think,
“Okay, oh, I shouldn't have done this. I shouldn't have done this. I shouldn't have done this.”
Now their mind can't even go to a solution because they're so busy beating themselves up, right?
“Yes.”
Then where do people go from that?
They either wanna…
“Go ahead.”
They just give up.
“I gave up on a lot of things.”
Bingo. They give up.
They could feel bad about themselves.
They go eat, or they go watch TV, or they go just try to escape the feelings of feeling bad about themselves somehow, in some way. Right?
“Definitely.”
Awesome. So the brain never gets a chance to then just say:
“What should I do instead? Just change it.”
Rewiring the Habit Loop
So let’s say you don’t beat yourself up, but instead you say:
“Okay, not going to beat myself up. What could I do differently?”
You think about a plan that you're going to do different.
And you ask yourself:
“Does this plan make sense?”
And then you start working on implementing that new plan.
How would that go?
“That would be ideal if I had…”
Yeah.
“Yeah. Now this is the other thing. If I had any…”
Okay, go ahead. Go ahead. Sorry.
Go ahead and finish.
If you had what?
“Um… self-confidence. If I trusted myself.”
I think that one of the things—
Yeah. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.
You're asking to trust yourself…
“Yes.”
…when you feel like you haven't trusted yourself, right?
“Yes.”
But it's doing it in a different way.
Building Self-Trust in a Healthy Way
Okay, so watch this.
If I feel like every time I get into a car, I drive towards a brick wall…
And I drive towards a brick wall, and I go:
“I just have to trust myself first.”
Well, maybe I also need to start doing things in a different way to also build trust too, right?
Not gonna do that anymore.
And then build trust.
Does that make sense?
“Yes, it does.”
So establishing self-trust is gonna be important.
You see, you start doing it in a different way and you establish trust.
“It does.”
Rewiring With a Practical Step
Okay. So now another thing is this.
Watch this — I want you to notice how many times you've also told yourself:
“You need to stop beating yourself up and just try to work towards self-love and self-kindness.”
Can you see that?
“Of course.”
Exactly — but you skipped the solution part of what you're going to do different next.
And so it didn’t hold — because you’re just telling yourself:
“Okay, I’m just going to love myself.”
But it doesn’t then rewire for what you need to do differently.
“Right. It doesn’t. And it didn’t. And it didn’t work out. I tried.”
Okay. So we just need to make some practical steps to make a real change.
Does that make sense?
“It does. It does.”
Creating a New Pattern
Okay, great. So if anytime you made a mistake, you said:
“I’m not gonna beat myself up. I’m gonna make a plan to do this in a different way moving forward.”
“Does my plan work? This is what I'm going to do. Does this make sense?”
And then move it forward, and you started building new habits of just doing things in a new way…
You think that would work?
I mean, do you think that worked with walking, by the way?
“It did.”
And by the way, when you learned to read and write as a kid — same thing, right?
You stutter. You go to read something and you might say:
“Cat… dog…” and you stutter…
Then you figure it out.
And then you sound it out, and you figure it out, and before you know it your brain learns it in the right way, and you keep going, right?
“Yes.”
Now, if you start to stutter and you can’t sound out a word and you just stop and say:
“Oh, I'm just so stupid.”
How soon do you learn it?
“You don’t.”
You don’t. Yeah.
So your pattern of being critical of self is the very problem.
Because if you weren’t doing that, then you could implement a solution that could help you to embrace change.
Does that make sense?
“It does.”
Acknowledging the Mind-Body Connection
All right, so let’s go ahead and pause it just for two really quick insights.
And first and foremost, I just have to say I love her — I love her self-awareness, I love her banter, I love her insights — she's just beautiful. I just love that.
And the insights that I also want to point out are this:
Notice when somebody’s in self-criticism or has a pattern of self-criticism…
Not only does it take your confidence away because you're constantly criticizing and criticizing yourself, but it also really keeps you from succeeding because…
How Self-Criticism Hurts Growth
The example that I use all the time is this:
Of course there’s babies.
When we go to learn how to walk, we stand up, we fall.
We stand up, we fall.
We stand up, we fall…
And each time we make distinctions and we do better and better and better until we’re walking.
But if every time we make a mistake as we go through life, we just criticize ourselves and criticize ourselves, it makes us feel bad, and it’s hard to keep getting back up…
And plus we’re not really making those distinctions of:
“What did I do great?”
“What needs to change?”
So it interrupts the process of growth and transformation and learning — it’s really hard on the learning process.
Why the Pattern Must Shift
There are so many reasons that self-criticism can really stop a person from becoming their best self or living a life that feels really good and happy, and also confident.
And so a lot of times people will end up stuck in that cycle, and they keep making the same mistakes over and over and over…
And now not only does it not boost their confidence, but it erodes their confidence because they feel like:
“I can’t trust myself.”
And so it becomes this horrible cycle.
Why I Push Her in the Session
Now also, the second thing I want to note is that coming up, you’ll notice that I do push her quite a bit.
She’s holding onto some trauma and of course, I say:
“Is it okay if I push you?”
And I do.
I push her — and I'm impressed because she does a great job at navigating it.
So I just want to let you know, it is a bit sensitive. I’m just gonna warn you ahead of time — it’s a bit sensitive.
But the thing of it is — when these traumas or wounding are affecting somebody’s health, and they’re affecting somebody to the point where it’s ulcerative colitis or different things going on — then we really, really do need to make a change.
The “Bus” Analogy
The example that I use all the time is:
Let’s say your friend is standing in front of a bus, and the bus is coming, and they’re not moving out of the way enough…
If the bus is coming, you kind of push them.
You're willing to push them or do whatever it takes to get them out from standing in front of the bus.
And that’s kind of the point.
So as it comes up, I do push her quite a bit.
Guilt Hiding Behind Trauma
And what I love is this:
As I’m pushing her, she’s able to see with more clarity that part of what’s going on at a deeper level is that she actually feels a sense of guilt.
And that’s part of the reason that her mind is holding onto the trauma.
So what you’ll notice is behind the trauma, it is a bit tricky.
And so that’s where we’re going.
And again, as you’ll notice as we step in — she’s impressive.
Her self-awareness, her self-honesty, her ability to navigate it and go through it with the sense of humor — she’s just brilliant. So that’s where we’re going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Ena.
Here we go.
Stepping Back in With Ena
So that’s where we’re going as we step back in with our beautiful volunteer, Ena.
Here we go.
Facing the Fear of Her Father
Gimme one second.
So I'm going to ask you to breathe.
And if I ask you to notice, zero to 10, how much you have a feeling of feeling terrified of your father — zero to 10 — terrified he is going to yell at you?
“Oh, I can feel it in my, in my legs actually.”
Uhhuh.
So I'm gonna ask you to breathe.
Now I have a question. I have a question.
You feel it in your legs. So this is what you said — that was great.
You can see the mind-body connection.
So you can see — we jumped in right here — you can see you just said:
“So if I said I was thinking about a stress and I feel it in my legs…”
You can see the mind-body connection, right?
“Okay.”
Great awareness.
So I'm going to ask you to breathe.
How Long Do You Need the Fear?
If I ask you: how often did your father beat you, what would you say?
“Um, actually just a couple of times, but it was like real beatings with like bruises and, and stuff like that.”
Okay. So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
And do you expect that he’s ever going to do it again?
“No, he's not alive anymore.”
Uhhuh.
So do you expect he’s ever going to do it again?
“He won’t.”
Okay. So…
How long do you need to hold onto the fear?
“I don’t need it anymore.”
Okay. So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
What? What’d you say?
“I don’t need it anymore.”
Oh! That’s what it sounded like you said!
Great, great, great.
Pushing With Love
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
And with respect, thank you for letting me push a bit. Okay?
But this is the thing, right?
Many people have been through some type of traumatic… this, that, the other.
Maybe it was a car accident, maybe it was a beating, maybe it was something, right?
Went through my own stuff — like everybody, okay?
So this is the thing:
Could you hold onto it for the rest of your life?
Yes — and that would be your decision, right?
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
So I know I’m pushing a little bit — with absolute respect.
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
You decide — do you want to hold onto it?
“I don’t.”
Okay. So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
So I’m going to push you a little bit — is that okay?
“Yes, definitely.”
“Yep.”
So I have your permission?
“Of course.”
Great.
How Long Is Too Long?
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
So I’m going to push a little bit, okay?
Or maybe a lot-a-bit.
Here we go.
So how long do you want to hold onto that for?
You want to hold onto the fear for how long?
“I don’t want to hold onto it.”
So wait — how long?
You’re over 15 years old, right?
“A little bit.”
Just a little bit?
Okay. So this happened many years ago, right?
“It did. Yeah.”
And how many years of your life do you want to spend holding onto this?
“No. Not anymore. Like not even a day.”
Bingo.
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Very wise.
Very wise. Very wise.
And so I’m going to ask you to breathe…
And take in that feeling — very, very, very wise.
Great job. Mind: doing something different.
Mind: no need for criticism, just deciding that you can do things in a different way, right?
“Yes.”
Fantastic. So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Recognizing the Difference
Bingo.
So who else do you expect to beat you?
Your husband?
“No, no. For God’s sake, no. No, no, no.”
But he’s a horrible guy, isn’t he?
“No. Wait — the opposite. The opposite. Like completely, completely. Wonderful. Nice.”
And he yells at you — how often?
“No, he doesn’t.”
Every day?
“No.”
And he screams at you?
“No.”
Oh! So you need to hold on to this fear — why?
You have a dog that screams at you? Is this…
“No.”
Okay.
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
So you mean you could actually let this feeling go, and you don’t actually need it anymore?
“Yeah.”
The Weight of Regret
“I think there’s some regrets tied to that.”
So I’m going to ask you to breathe…
That you regret yelling at yourself?
“No — regret towards my father.”
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
You mean regret — or do you mean resentment?
“Uh… regret, actually. Regret.”
Okay.
And why regret towards your father?
“Because I just feel like I didn’t do a lot for him…”
“He was in a very bad condition and… kind of like I wanted to live my life…”
“And towards his end, I wasn’t there as much as I think I should have.”
You’re Going Back to the Old Pattern
Okay. So I’m going to ask you to breathe…
And I feel like you’re going back to your old process, which includes…
Criticizing yourself.
“Yes.”
Remember, you were going to change the process.
“Okay. Yes. Thank you for reminding me.”
You’re welcome. You’re welcome.
I know it’s a process you’ve refined over the years and really dialed in — but remember, we’re changing the process, right?
“Yes.”
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Creating a New Process
So your new process is what?
Doing things differently, moving forward, and letting go of the old, right?
“Yes, definitely.”
Ah, that’s a much better process. I like that.
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
I mean, of course, you could continue to criticize yourself and beat yourself up and feel guilty for the rest of your life…
I mean, I don’t want to interrupt your process — you seem to have refined it.
The Mind Will Try to Cling
All right, now this is the thing — is this:
What is going to happen, because this process has been so embedded in you, is that we could clean this one up, and your mind is going to do what?
“Think of five more.”
Yes.
Uhhuh.
For sure.
For sure.
Yeah.
Mmhmm.
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Breaking the Pattern of Guilt
There’s a feeling of feeling like… wanting to punish yourself before your dad yelled at you. Can you see that? Are you familiar with that feeling?
“Yes.”
Bingo.
So the other thing is this — and this is going to sound a little tricky…
It’s kind of like this:
Let’s say somebody feels guilty towards their dad because they felt like they didn’t do enough, right?
So what’s going to want to happen is that in their mind, they’re going to want to do this:
“But he did this… and he did this… and he did this…”
To try to not feel as guilty.
Does that make sense?
“Yeah.”
The Guilt-Victim Trap
So it’s kind of like — let me say it another way.
Let’s say — bingo — let’s say you punched somebody and you hurt them and you felt bad about it.
You felt this bad. You felt so bad.
Then you’d be like:
“But they did this to me first. They did this to me. They did this…”
So as long as you keep reminding yourself of all the things they did to you, it makes you feel better about what you feel guilty about.
Does that make sense?
“Yes, it does.”
Okay.
The problem is, then you have to be the victim, and also feel guilt, and victim, and so it’s that pattern you get stuck in.
Does that make sense?
“Yeah, it does. It does. Yes.”
Okay.
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Rewiring with Playfulness
I don’t know if we should mess up your process.
You have like a whole process going on.
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
“I should get it copyrighted, right?”
I mean — exactly!
I was like, why have you not written this stuff down?
Put it into a framework for people!
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Now, by the way, notice what process we’re actually doing, and it’s this:
We’re observing different things, and then we’re kind of laughing about them, right?
“Yes.”
So that could be a different change to your process, where we’re not taking it so seriously.
We’re going,
“Oh, then there’s this!”
“Oh, let’s laugh about it!”
“Okay, what do we want to do instead?”
That could be your new process.
So we’re actually infusing my process in there — which is just about having some playfulness and observing things not with judgment or criticism, but with play.
“That’s not optimal — what could we do instead?”
Does that make sense?
“Beautiful. It does actually.”
Fantastic.
A Much Better Process
It’s really nice, yeah — it’s kind of lighthearted, and I appreciate it.
“Absolutely.”
I love it, right? And I love your sense of humor.
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
And notice — it’s a much better process.
It’s…
- No beating required.
- No being mean to yourself.
- No berating yourself needed, right?
“Yes.”
Great. So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Letting Go After Loss
Bingo.
Now, if I ask you — and by the way — is your mother still around?
“No.”
Okay. She passed?
“Okay, so — bingo.”
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Bingo. Perfect.
And if I ask you — how close you still feel with your mother, what would you say?
“Uh… I don’t, I don’t know if we were ever close actually…”
“But I feel kind of that I’m not capable of letting her go somehow.”
Okay.
And if I ask you how much you feel — a sense of — like you still maintain a connection with her, if that makes sense, what would you say?
“Yes, you’re right.”
Bingo.
A New Way to Stay Connected
So if I ask you, what would happen if you maintained a feeling of connection — even with your mother and with your father — but in a different way?
“That would be great actually. It would be like a huge burden taken off my shoulders, wouldn’t it?”
Oh yeah. Great.
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
And notice what you just said:
“It would be a huge burden taken off your shoulders.”
It would be a huge weight lifted.
And I’m going to ask you to breathe, and imagine what that would feel like.
Loving Beyond the Physical
It’s kind of like this:
If your parents, while they were alive, lost their car, they couldn’t drive anymore for whatever reason…
Would you judge them or criticize them?
Or could you still love them just the way they were, even if they didn’t have a car?
“I would love them.”
Right.
Okay, so in this vehicle of our physical body — even if they’ve lost their physical body, their physical vehicle — that you can still connect with them in spirit.
Not judge them because they don’t have a car — they don’t have a physical body car.
Does that make sense?
“It does.”
Great.
A Loving Relationship After Death
So I’m going to ask you to breathe…
And I invite you to close your eyes and just imagine:
Just because they don’t have a car, so to speak…
They don’t have this physical vehicle like we do going through the physical world…
But just because they don’t have a car, you don’t need to judge them or be mean to them, right?
You could still connect with them and say hi to them and have a different type of relationship with them, right?
“Yes.”
Staying Connected in Spirit
Would it feel better for you if you — when you connected with them — picked up the phone and you pretended like you were talking to them on the phone?
I mean, it might be a little weird — but you could just actually connect with them and say hi and in spirit — you know what I mean?
“Yes.”
Great.
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Recognizing Life Energy
And when you think about it for a moment — when somebody passes, the life leaves their body, right?
“Yes.”
Okay.
So their life energy, their life force energy is still there — it’s just not in their vehicle.
Make sense?
“It does.”
Great.
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
So instead of feeling regret — could you actually just start moving it forward and just be nice, and just say:
“Hey mom.”
“All right. Love you.”
“Hope you’re well…”
And just have this feeling of appreciation and warmth.
Instead of holding on to guilt — just saying:
“Okay, great.”
And having this feeling of:
“Okay, I appreciate you.”
Okay?
It’s Not About the Car
Just like — kind of like this:
Do you have a connection with universe?
Universe, God, divine energy — whatever you want to call it?
Do you have a connection with God?
“It’s a tricky question. I’m not sure. It’s a completely separate topic. I don’t know.”
Okay.
Tuning In to Life Energy
So I have a question for you.
You’ve heard that birds can fly south for the winter, right?
“Yes.”
How do they know how to do that?
“They have an inner feeling or compass or whatever it is.”
Okay.
And have you ever heard before that if there’s a natural disaster, animals will sometimes migrate or move ahead of time?
Not always, but in many cases?
“Yes, they kind of like know.”
Yes.
So there’s an energy of life, of planet, of universe…
That — whether you call it God, energy, universe, divine, Mother Nature — we’re all connected to that energy.
Does that make sense?
“It does.”
Sending Energy With Intention
Great.
So I’m going to ask you to breathe and close your eyes, and take in the awareness that you’re connected to life, to energy, to life force energy.
And we’re all connected to life force energy…
- Birds
- Animals
- Us
- Everything…
And you could…
- Send positive energy toward the universe, or God, or divine energy, or Mother Nature…
- Send positive thoughts toward your sister…
- Send positive thoughts toward your mother’s being, your mother’s energy…
- Toward your dad’s energy…
And I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Wouldn’t that be a better feeling than holding onto regret?
I mean, you could do that — I don’t want to interrupt your process.
“Well… it would be different, let’s say.”
Love Instead of Guilt
Okay, so I have a question.
Let’s say there was a mistake that your husband made in the past…
And he felt guilt, guilt, guilt… regret, regret, regret…
He felt that way his entire life.
How would that go for him?
“It would be terrible.”
Okay.
So let’s say he said:
“Look, this is what I’m going to do.
I’m just going to send positive energy toward my parents…
And be grateful.
And move it forward.
I just need to be able to move it forward. That’s it.”
What would that look like for him?
“It would be… it would free… it would sound like a good idea.”
Ah. Great.
It would mess up your whole process, though…
“Okay. I don’t need to hold on to that anymore.”
“I… can I…”
Great, great, great.
You mean you’re willing to change and do things in a different way and move it forward, instead of being so addicted to beating yourself up?
“Yes. Yes. Yes.”
Ah! Amazing.
So I’m going to ask you to breathe and take in the feeling that you are willing to change.
Making Pivotal Changes
Now, this is the thing — I’m actually going to leave it right here.
And this is the reason why:
If you made these changes that we talked about, how pivotal would that be for you?
“Very much so. Very much so.”
The idea of:
- Not needing to beat yourself up, and
- Being able to move things forward…
That’s pivotal, right?
“To move things forward, to not need to beat yourself up — yes, that is pivotal.”
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Avoiding Overwhelm
And the thing of it is, is if I add way too much on here, you’re going to feel overwhelmed, and then you’re going to feel like you can’t succeed from that.
Okay?
Now, by the way, if I ask you:
How often do you feel overwhelmed already, what would you say — in life?
“Every single day.”
Bingo.
So I’m going to ask you to breathe.
Overwhelm Starts Inside
So the reason that I don’t want to add in too much is because I feel that awareness of overwhelm, too.
But part of the overwhelm has to do with the overwhelming fear, and anxiety, and anxiousness of:
- Terrified of making a mistake, or
- Doing something wrong, or
- Beating yourself up for every little thing that you feel like is not perfect.
Can you see that?
“Of course. Yes.”
Freedom to Embrace Change
Right.
So in other words, as you start to make this change, it can start to:
- Free your mind
- Help you embrace change in your life
- And also not feel so overwhelmed
Does that make sense?
“Beautiful. It does. It does. It does.”
I love your self-awareness.
Fantastic.
Unpacking the Transformation
All right, so let’s go ahead and unpack this even more.
And first and foremost — again — I just love her.
I love her:
- Self-awareness
- Self-honesty
- Banter
- Sense of humor
Just brilliant, just beautiful — I absolutely adore her.
Everything Is Interconnected
And I want to unpack this a little bit further because there are key insights that you’ll want to know.
First and foremost — moving things forward is so key.
Because as you could see from this session — as I was working with her — everything is really interconnected.
For example:
- The self-criticism → produces guilt for not being there for her father →
- Which then makes her mind hold onto the trauma →
- Because letting go of trauma might make the guilt go up…
So then her mind doesn't want to let go of the trauma…
It becomes a spiral and a catch-22…
And it’s also affecting her health.
The Power of Understanding the Mind
So often that very thing happens — where one pattern is connected to another, to another…
And it can feel harder, even impossible, to get results unless you really understand how the mind works.
And that’s why, when I go in — because I have such a deep understanding — I can see the interconnectedness, and it becomes easier and easier to create change.
Which is also the reason that it may seem simple, but:
Moving it forward is so important.
Releasing Overwhelm
So as she can start to move it forward and begin to feel in a different way…
And also, not criticizing herself — that will be the next piece to opening it.
Now, that’s key, but remember — she’s also feeling a lot of overwhelm.
So I didn’t want to overwhelm her with too many things because as she starts moving it forward, that can help free up her mind and start to decrease the feelings of overwhelm.
Overwhelm Is a Mindset
And so just thinking about that for a moment, because overwhelm, when we stop and think about it — is very much a mindset.
And of course, it can be a structure, too — a way of doing things.
So if people have a way of doing things that is disorganized, that can create overwhelm, too.
But overwhelm starts on the inside, in the way we think and in our emotions.
Healing Begins with the Mind
And so the more we:
- Change our mindset
- Let go of inner criticism
- Allow for connection and love
- Trust the process of life and spirit
The more we can start to heal — in body, mind, and energy.
Final Thoughts and Resources
And remember, if you're interested in expanding even more into this:
- My new feature on Gaia in the Divine Science series just released
- There's also a previous interview on Gaia about how the mind really works
- And if you're someone who's wanting to master your mind and heal yourself, we have a training to walk you through how to do exactly that.
Links to all of that are in the show notes.
You Are Incredible
And of course, please remember:
You really can heal yourself and change your life.
You are more powerful than you realize.
And as you become more and more aware of your mind and how it works, it truly does open the door to:
- Health
- Happiness
- Transformation
- And even divine connection in a deeper way.
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And on that note — please do make a point to have the most wonderful, happy, healthy, and incredible rest of your day.
I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.
We’ll see you there.
