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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire life. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this.
Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level. I'll even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use. To master your mind, your emotions, and your energy to help you heal your health yourself and your life.
Let's begin.
Hello and happy beautiful day to you. On today's episode, I wanna talk about the importance of confidence and getting rid of insecurity and also the hidden patterns, if you will, that keep people stuck from really creating that change. Because when we think about confidence for a moment, confidence isn't just great for relationships.
Of course, confidence is great for relationships, but also. For healing, for happiness, for connection, for love, for all of it. Because if you think about the opposite of confidence, the opposite of confidence is what insecurity I. Which is feeling insecure, unsafe, feeling unsafe can affect your health, your happiness, your life, how much joy you experience.
And so for that reason, I wanted to talk about this, this topic because a lot of times I'll see people who have been working on increasing their confidence in life where they're trying to bring in feelings of confidence or trying to program themselves. And yet. They also simultaneously have sabotage patterns that are keeping them from achieving the level of confidence that they want and they don't realize it.
And it's so common that I'll see people doing this, and let's say somebody's working on bringing feelings of confidence and they're in a relationship, they. Simultaneously in this relationship or in life, they have patterns of, let's say, a pattern of getting angry at others or let's say a pattern. I've seen women before where they have this pattern of being so loving and sweet, and then they simultaneously have a pattern of feeling like it's cool to be a diva or salty or attack or stand up for themselves in a way where they're always.
Feeling abrasive in their relationships. They don't have a smooth way to do it. So what happens is this is they have relationships where they're very loving, and then there's also simultaneously a lot of conflict. Then what happens? I. It creates a deeper feeling of insecurity inside of them because as they're in this loving relationship or relationships, you know, and they're in these loving relationships and then there's constantly some type of conflict, some type of conflict or abrasive or a diva or upset or hurt feelings or, and by the way, I've seen people do that very thing where sometimes what the issue is.
Because they're overly sensitive. You know, they're sensitive about every little thing. And if you think about it, we've even seen that on POD as past podcast episodes where I've worked with people who are experiencing physical pain. And I helped them to understand that it was their level of, that they felt sensitive to everything, like easily hurt all of the time.
And by the way, if you think about it. If somebody's going through life and they're so easily hurt and easily hurt and you gotta walk on eggshells all of the time, and they're easily hurt, they can definitely push people away. And so that is my point today is. All of the time, I'll see people who just, you know, wanna bring in confidence and this great, don't get me wrong, bringing in and programming the mind for confidence is great, but also identifying and really genuinely rewiring negative patterns at a deeper level in the subconscious mind can be key for creating a real transformation.
And a simple way to think of it by the way. I was thinking about this is imagine for a moment if I went to go cook dinner and so I cook dinner and I have a habit, by the way, after I cook dinner of taking the pan off of the stove, dumping it upside down, and then going to sit down to eat, you would say, well, Brandy.
It would be like, well, cooking isn't hard necessarily, but this pattern where you dump it on the floor kind of sabotages the whole thing. And of course, if I only did it 50% of the time, I would be frustrated. I would say, okay, well sometimes relationship or cooking seems to work and sometimes it's not working so well.
My point is all of the time I'll see that happen with people where it's affecting them, it's affecting their life, their happiness, and their relationships. And so I wanted to bring up that insight because it is so common for me to see people get sucked into. These patterns or even not know how to change them or keep going into the same patterns and beating themselves up over and over and over again.
You know, if you think about our last podcast episode with our beautiful volunteer, as we were working on releasing pain, which she started doing is releasing her pain. She noticed that part of what was going on as she was beating herself up for going into the same patterns over and over and over again.
And that is so common. And so, even as I say this, you know, if you are noticing that maybe you have sabotage patterns in your life, you know, then you'll wanna change 'em. Now, by the way, on a quick note, sometimes they can be very tricky. And this is what I mean. That, I call it a sabotage pattern, but sometimes people feel happy to be diva.
They go, yes, they're, they're happy to be a diva or salty or attitude or, um, and they think it's a good quality or a fun quality, and yet they don't see the other side of the coin. Where it can be damaging to their relationships. Now, by the way, sometimes the word diva does not have to mean attitude and what, so to each their own on interpreting it.
I'm just saying some of the experiences can be, and the, the wording around it or the way it shows up can be counterintuitive where somebody can see some type of their behavior as being a good thing when it's really. Sabotaging different areas of their life. And a simple way to think about it is like always standing up for yourself.
Always standing up for yourself. Now, this is the way I look at it is, you know, in, in, when you're seven years old, to stand up for yourself is really, really great. But when you are 70. Your goal shouldn't have to be to be, have to stand up for yourself all the time. Instead, it should be to have developed ways of getting respect in life to, you're not always feeling that it's abrasive and you've gotta stand up for yourself all of the time.
And so I've seen people that, you know, they're, you know, 70, 30, 40, 50, 60, 80, whatever age, and they go, yeah, I'm standing up for myself. I'm standing up. It's like, well, what would happen if you upleveled that? And you didn't have to stand up for yourself all the time, but instead you had ways of getting respect in life and that was your energy.
Your vibration was harmony, was mutual respect, and it felt that way. And feeling that, and there's a way to feeling that. And, and by the way, this is what happens if somebody's proud of being a diva, if they're proud of standing up for themselves, if they're proud, it, it then ends up showing up where they, they're manifesting even in harmonious relationships.
They're manifesting those circumstances and situations. And by the way, I've seen all the time. Where people go in and they genuinely change these patterns and their relationships shift like the the same relationships. So I'm not saying you have to leave your partner, your spouse, your family, all of these people, because a lot of times people will feel that way.
They feel like, my family's not respecting me, I better leave them. But so often when people just change their patterns and the way they're showing up. It can create a change in the relationships that they're currently in. So just food for thought. Coming back to the awareness of confidence, there can be layers to it, but creating a real shift in your relationships is good for your health, your happiness, your life.
And not only that, but your level of security and self and confidence, and just so many layers and so much for the enjoyment. Have this beautiful, beautiful world around us. And so Food for Thought. And that's today's quick IQ episode where we talk about insights, questions, and distinctions. And, um, if you are somebody who is working on healing your relationships, I do have a course.
For that if you'd like. Also, if you're somebody who is working on really understanding mind body healing and how it works, I also have a free 90 minute training masterclass that is absolutely incredible and will help you understand how this all fits together. So either way, whatever I can do to support you, my biggest goal is it every single person in our world lives a happy, healthy, wonderful, fantastic, loving life.
And so that is my biggest hope. And so I ask you on that note, please do. Take a quick moment to hit the share button on this episode. You know, share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or somebody you don't even know. Because the more that every single person in our world is happy, and healthy and loved and loving, the better this world is for all of us.
And so please do hit the share button, and please do make a point to have a most wonderful, incredible rest of your day, and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. We'll see you there.
Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself, change Your Life. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or helped them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness. Of how amazing we all really are.
If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really need it. As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone.
What we are all capable of. And of course each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results. But the point is for you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible.
And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made. You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people realize. That said, if you want to send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website at brandygillmore.com/podcast.
And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well. Lastly. Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll wanna continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind.
Thank you.
