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Welcome to Heal Yourself, Change Your Life. My name is Brandy Gillmore, and after recovering from my own life-changing injury, it's become my mission to share with others the same discoveries I made that changed my health and my entire. Our minds are truly incredible. The placebo is proof of this. Each week I will take this simple awareness to a whole new level.
I will even coach live callers to free themselves of physical pain using only their mind, and then I'll provide you with a combination of practical and spiritual insights that you can use to master your mind, your emotions, and your. To help you heal your health yourself and your life.
Let's begin.
Hello and welcome. It is so wonderful to connect with you. I just love that you are here continuing to expand your mind, your energy, your consciousness, your healing. I just love it and I just love every episode just has a different beautiful insight and multiple insights and this one today has a very powerful insight that I want to share with you that just as you're creating this beautiful change in your world, in your life, in your health, in your happiness, the insight that comes from today's episode is very powerful.
You implement it, of course. And so, that's where we're going today. And, if you recall, last week I was working with this beautiful volunteer, Sophia, who, if you recall, she had had a stroke when she was 18 years old. And, now she's dealing with a stroke. You know, working on getting her life back. And I love her determination.
And, you know, she, her stroke was ten years ago. But she's working on her speech. And, and getting that better. And she's also working on, so what we're working on specifically is also her right arm being able to fully lift it all the way up on her own. So it's a lot, it's very tight. And, uh, And hard to lift and she's got some challenges with it.
And so she's working on that and I just love her determination and her, she's just a beautiful, beautiful being. And so I love that. And the insight that comes from today's episode, we're going to do short and sweet just because there's something that I want to invite you to just implement. Something simple that I want to invite you to implement.
In your life as we go. And so, and so that's where we're going on today's episode. And if you recall on last week's episode, we had been talking about, you know, when somebody is really frustrated and having that screaming or the upset or the punching the pillow or, you know, different things like that, that I'll see people do where they maybe have learned to get anger out or something like that, then they go, you know, Punch a pillow or this, that, the other, but that what happens is it just further ingrains it into the nervous system.
And while it may seem like it releases it, it builds back up again. So we talked about, you know, it's kind of like if you were trying to get rid of the alphabet out of your mind or get rid of a movie out of your mind, you wouldn't listen to it over and over and over very intensely because that would instead just make it very fresh in your being.
And so there's a different way to do it. And so we talked about that on the last episode is really. being willing to start changing some of these patterns. And, and if you're doing that, where you're ingraining past emotions, even more, and you'll definitely want to do it in a different way. And so that's what we had talked about on the last episode.
And that's where we're going to start out on today's episode is we're going to pick up where we left off, where she mentioned she'd, you know, been screaming a bit because of the anger and whatnot, um, to release it and, um, To release it would be a better way to say it, but that's where we're going ends.
Again, just a beautiful, beautiful being. I just absolutely adore her name, Sophia. And let's go ahead and dive back in. Here we go.
And why did you scream three times? And just relief. Yeah. Relief. Yeah. Okay. And then releasing anger. Yes, but my right body is tight. Just it's, I'm, I'll describe it. Okay. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and I want you to think about just for a moment how intense the anger gets when you're really upset.
And if I ask you to think about how intense that is. Yeah. It's a lot, right? Yeah. You smile, you know, right? I know. I know. Yeah. Okay. Yeah, there is a hangar. There is a hangar. Yeah. Mm hmm. And by the way, how old were you when you had the stroke? 18 years. Oh, you're 18 years old. Okay, so I'm gonna ask you to breathe And I'm gonna ask you to notice how much anger you feel towards your body and towards a stroke.
It's a big one. It's a big one. Mm hmm.
All right, so let's go ahead and pause it just for a really quick moment. You know, first and foremost, I just love her sense of humor, her self awareness, her self honesty. I mean, she's just beautiful and precious. And also, I want to make a quick note on this topic. You know, all of the time people will say, you know, the very health issue that they have is further increasing their feelings, whatever that might be.
You know, and by the way, the exact same thing happened in my own life, you know, I had fear going on in my subconscious mind that I didn't realize that I had going on. And then of course, as I was injured and not feeling like I was ever going to get better and all these things and, and my life was falling apart and every area of my life was falling apart.
I had fear go way up, so it was not helpful. It was something that I had to change. And so if you are somebody who is experiencing that, you know, remember to be sure to change it because all the time people will do things like they'll say, well, yes, but I'm angry because I have this health issue or I'm upset because I have this and this and this, and it's part of the pattern.
And I can't tell you how often I'll see people experience exactly that. So just kind of food for thought if that is something that you are doing. then you might want to look at that and really transform that in your life. All right, so that said, let's go ahead and dive back in with beautiful Sophia.
Here we go.
Now, if I ask you, you've heard about patterns before, like people have, have a pattern, like maybe you've heard in psychology where a woman might have a pattern where, She unfortunately has an abusive father and then leaves him and finds an abusive boyfriend, boss, about like that pattern. Yeah. Or people have patterns of, uh, hurt or rejection or abandonment, things like that.
Right. Yeah. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And I want you to notice if I ask you how much anger you feel towards your body and the stroke. Zero to 10. What's your level? 11. Yeah. I would have said 50, but we'll go with your 11. Yeah. Just. Okay. I feel. Yeah. Mm hmm. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And how's that going for you?
Yeah. Okay. Relief. This is the thing. All right. So. I had things to do with fear and fear towards a few like a bunch of feelings with fear and this that the other now imagine if all of a sudden if I have some fear going on and then suddenly I feel like I can't work and I can't take care of anything and I don't know if I have like a future and I'm injured I'm in all this pain all this stuff do you think my fear went up or down what if what if what if uh fear felt like it went up yeah my point is is we have patterns and patterns and patterns, right?
Now, if I ask you, how many tantrums you feel like you had in kindergarten? A lot. Yeah. Would you say, thinking back, there was a little bit of anger there, would you say? A little bit or a lot? Yeah. Would you say a little bit, a lot, or a lot? Middle. Middle? Just, yes, middle. Okay, I have a question. Yes. Seeing other kids, Had tantrums in kindergarten.
Oh, um, say it again. How many other kids did you see have tantrums in kindergarten? Um, um, in my childhood, um, I had tantrums, but ten minutes, and then relief, and I'd feel relief. that just can't describe it. So what you're saying is you had a big tantrum, but then 10 minutes later, you'd be back to normal and be okay.
Yes. And what I'm saying is anybody else like that? I'm special. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Yes. Yes. Okay. Now, now, so what I asked you is, do you know any other kids who would get as upset as you? Yeah. In kindergarten, when you think back to it, you can see that your anger was different. Can you see that? And can you. Go ahead.
Uh, I'm angry, bottled up in my, uh, yeah, and it's explosive, right? Yes. Yes. And then you calm down, right? Yes. So if I ask you, are you willing to change this pattern? Yeah. Okay. Yes. I like it. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And if I ask you over the last month, how many times you've had explosive anger and then calmed down?
Three. Or, no, a few, uh, I don't know. Okay, if I ask you in the next week. Week, okay. Uh, maybe a couple. Okay. Or, not a couple, but just angry. Yeah. Okay. You see what I see? I see what you see, right? Yes. Yes. So how do we make it go away? Are you willing to change it? Oh yeah. Great. I need to change it. Great. So I'm going to ask you to breathe and I want you to notice that pattern of feeling all bottled up, a bunch of anger, feeling really, really, really upset, like explosively upset, and then returning to normal like no big deal.
Yeah. Okay. So I'm gonna ask you to breathe. And if I ask you, if your mom was explosively upset at you and then just returned to normal, and then was explosively upset at you and then returned to normal and explosively upset and then returned to normal, how would that feel to you? It's like Papa. It's like what?
Papa, uh, grandfather, who's tramped and has a fit and then blows off and happy. Yeah. Okay. And yeah, father, what do you mean? Grandfather? Oh, um, uh, Papa, like, Papa, um. Your grandfather? Yes, grandfather, yes. Okay, and if I ask you to notice that quality in him, how do you like that quality in your grandfather?
Bad. And would you want that quality? I'm trying to be positive. Okay, so if I ask you to breathe, And I'm going to ask you to close your eyes. And I'm going to ask you just for a moment to notice. Alright, so I'm going to ask you to lift your arm again. And I want you to notice in your right arm, your level of tension.
And what's your number? Uh, six. So it's still about the same, right? Yes. So I'm going to ask you to breathe. And I'm going to ask you to close your eyes. And I want you to notice the part of you who feels like you deserve to be angry because of the stroke. You deserve to be frustrated, like your anger is validated.
Can you see that? Yeah, so I'm gonna ask you just for a moment if it's true.
All right, so let's go ahead and pause it right here. You know, again, first and foremost, I just love her self awareness, her self honesty. She's so just beautiful and sweet and wonderful. And, of course, there's some patterns that she's going to want to change. Now, I want to actually go ahead and pause the session right here.
And this might be the shortest volunteer episode I have ever done. Stopping it so quickly, but there's a reason for it. And it's this. It's that, As I was working with her as far as validating emotions, this is something that I see people do all of the time. And a lot of times, people don't even realize they're doing it.
But what happens is this, is that they're further ingraining the very patterns that they want to get rid of. And so instead of changing their life, instead of changing their health, they're ingraining them. And I want to invite you to look at this in your life And to notice if you're doing that. And what'll happen a lot of times is people are, you know, validating their emotion or they're wanting others to validate their emotions.
And I get it. I absolutely understand. And it's like this craving that people can have where they're like, Oh my God, I just need to validate this emotion. I need to feel like somebody understands it. And it does. It feels really, really, really good to have somebody understand your emotion. But the problem is.
It just continues to reinforce it. You know, it's kind of like a smoker who's craving a cigarette and they get one and to them it feels relieving. And so a lot of times emotional patterns can be the same. It's like there's a certain level of addiction to emotional patterns. And so what can happen is that sometimes people just want their emotions to be validated because then they feel a sense of safety.
or they'll feel a sense of feeling understood or right. They go, Oh, well, I'm the one who's right. And I'm not necessarily saying it's about invalidating them either, though in some cases it might be, might be like, wait a second, I have this emotion right here. No, let me let that go. And so in some cases it might be, or in some cases it will be about acknowledging, okay, yes, I'm experiencing this feeling.
But I want to go ahead and change it. Let me really change it. So instead of validating it, you won't want to do that. And by the way, when I say sometimes it is about invalidating it, you know, I see people all the time that will have some type of fear coming up. Like, oh my god, they just got this exciting new job, or they just got this new relationship that's coming up and they're so excited about, or they just got a promotion and then they're experiencing a feeling of fear.
You know, and, and so sometimes they'll say, you know, are you sure that's a valid feeling that you really want to have is all that fear is that is that really what you want to experience and they'll evaluate it and they realize sometimes it's just a fear towards change, you know, and so that might be the case for you.
Also, is maybe there's an emotion coming up that is completely not valid, but the reason that I want to pause it here is because all of the time, all of the time, all of the time, people are either wanting others to validate their emotions or they're validating the same painful emotions that they have for themselves, in which case they're doing the very opposite thing.
That will ever bring them to change. And so for that reason, I figured I would pause the session right here and give you a moment. to incorporate this in your life. And by the way, just kind of a little bit of a spoiler alert, but notice if you recall from the first part of this episode with Sophia, uh, she was kind of having some problems lifting her arm.
And, and don't worry on the next part of the session, she lifts her arm a lot easier. She's, Really, really sweet. It just, it, it touched my heart so much. Just her reaction was really, really sweet. So that is where we're going. And it's fun and wonderful. And just for the moment, I wanted to invite you to take this moment for yourself and just notice if you're doing that, because obviously if you're here, you're somebody who wants change in your life.
You want to change your happiness, your health, your life, your emotions, you know, all of it. And a lot of times people don't even realize consciously that they're validating their emotions or they're wanting others to validate them. And so that's what I want to invite you into this awareness and if this is something that's going on for you, because if you think about it all of the time, people are wanting change.
They're wanting change. They want to create change and they don't realize. They're sitting there validating their emotions, and by the way, if you think about it for a moment, anger is something that's going on in Sophia's life, the tantrum feeling, all of that, you know, just something she had as a kid, a pattern that she's had as a kid, but what's happening is basically she's validating the very emotion that's also affecting her at a subconscious level and doesn't even realize it.
So, in other words, the more she validates this emotion and validates this emotion, the more she's going to keep herself stuck. And so, really genuinely changing it is going to be key. And again, I want to invite you to do the same. And, as always, I want to invite you to please do hit the share button on this episode.
Share it with somebody you love, somebody you care about, or even If you have been asking a friend to sometimes validate your emotions, maybe you share it with them and you say, okay, I'm not going to do this anymore. Let's not do that this week at all. And maybe you guys have been validating each other's emotions.
And so maybe the goal is to listen to this with a friend. And to say, okay, we're going to shift this. We're going to change this. That could be great too. So that said, again, just please do make a point to share it. The more empowered that every single person is in this world, the better this world is for all of us.
And on that note, please do make it a wonderful day. Live fully, enjoy, and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode. I'll see you there.
Thank you for listening to Heal Yourself Change. All of the time people reach out and say how much these episodes have given them hope or touched their heart, or help them stay positive in hard times, or even woken them up to a completely new level of awareness of how amazing we all really are. If today's episode touched your heart or expanded your [00:34:00] mind in any way, please do me a favor and be sure to share it with those you care about or those you know who really.
As more and more people become empowered, it really will change our world for the better. That is the point and the power of these demonstrations is to create a radical shift in our world consciousness by showing everyone what we are all capable of. And of course, each volunteer will really need to follow through to reinforce their programming, to maintain their results.
But the point. For you to see that you really can create rapid results in your health and your life if you really understand how to use your mind. You are incredible. And I do wanna be clear though, that most people will not get results this fast on their own. I make it look very easy because of the discoveries that I made.
You'll wanna remember that there's so much more going on in our minds at a deeper level than people. That said, if you wanna send me any questions or comments, come visit me on my website brandygilmore.com/podcast. And if you're currently experiencing physical pain and would like to be a volunteer on the show, you can sign up there as well.
Lastly, Please remember, if you do have any health issues, you won't want to avoid your doctors. Instead, you'll wanna continue seeing them and make it your goal to blow their minds with what you are capable of with your mind. Thank you.
